Long One coming up - apologies in advance.
We have one daughter and one granddaughter. We have bailed them out of problems both physically and financially all their lives - yes : spoilt. DD is married (2nd marriage)to a 'Walter Mitty' who makes up stories about his life that no one (except she) believes, he is rude and dismissive of laws, and possesses no respect to anyone. His son is a druggie who lives in his bedroom, does nothing but SiL pays for his drugs. They don't have anything to do with us, their choice. DD works very hard, but has never got time for us, we get on her nerves. DGD dropped out college and cares for no one except herself. She works and earns good money. Neither girl buy us anything for birthdays or send cards. They never phone or come and see us (before lockdown) unless they want something, and usually we comply. DH is retired, but last night DGD phoned asking DH to drive her 50 miles into London as she didn't want to go by train. He said no, she hung up on him because for the first time she didn't get what she wanted. He is devastated. He had to go into London himself a few weeks ago and it cost £150 for a taxi there and back because he shouldn't travel on public transport. No offers of help from them. He is hurt and I am angry because they know the situation and he shouldn't venture far. I still work full time as I got caught by the government and cannot get my pension for another 2 years. Your opinions please.
How much do you spend on yourself?