what's the worst personal comment you have received from a person ?

When I was about 11 or 12 I was one of those selected to do a 'modern dance' for parents and pupils for some special event. We wore our school dance leotards and did movements to a poem as we had practised in class. I was so pleased with myself and felt I did really well. Then an older girl, someone I really admired and looked up to, came up to me after and said 'I really enjoyed your dance. You looked so funny with your little pot belly!' I was devastated and I have remembered that 'little pot belly' comment for so many years. I don't think she meant to be nasty, she was a very sweet girl but obviously didn't think how I'd take it.

silverlining48

In my later 20 s as a new mum I was mistaken as my baby’s GRANDNMOTHER. I was upset but said nothing, but more upset when it happened another time sometime later.

In my 30 s I was mistaken for my friend’s MOTHER by a member of staff in M&S. this time I suggested she not make assumptions because my friend wasn’t my daughter but my friend, who was older than me. ! I felt better for speaking up.

Now in my late 70 s people can’t believe how ‘young’ I look.
Better late than never I suppose. .

outwith same age friend, asked “is yourmother ok with the stairs?”

From my uncle who told me that I reminded him of King Lear’s daughter, but he “wasn’t sure which”!!! I was horrified and deeply hurt.

Said to me by a right old buffer, decades ago:"........but when all the pretty girls have lost their looks at least you'll still have your degree!"

We had spent some time decorating our new house and thought it looked lovely,particularly the entrance hall. My mil remarked ‘at least it’s clean’ Another one was shortly after the birth of our 4 th I was asked by a shopkeeper when ‘it’ was due.

It wasn't really an upsetting comment because it made me laugh.

A girl at work, known for her ability to put her foot in it or make unwise comments, told me how much she liked my dress and what brand was it (it was an Anne Brookes petite dress - no longer exists unfortunately). I told her and she asked "oh, it's really nice. Do they do anything fashionable?" It still makes me laugh.

My aunt told my Mum that when she was made up she looked very attractive, even though she was really quite ordinary looking!!

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I can’t believe just how much weight you’ve put on!!!

This thread began a very very long time ago before I was even a granny!

Oh I didn't notice! I've probably put my comment on before

Madgran77

Annobel

After I'd left my last school prizegiving with a load of prizes, one of my old primary school teachers came up to me and said: 'Well, I'd never have expected that of you!' What a backhander that was!

Similar for me was after passing 8 O Levels all Grade 1 or 2 my history teacher "Well that must have been luck or poor marking.. I expected you to fail most of them including history!"

I took History A level and got Grade A. She didnt teach me for A level and never spoke to me re my A level grade! Probably a good thing after her O level nastiness to me!

I wonder if Annobel is still posting.
She posted that in 2011.

This thread started in 2011!

I felt sorry for a work colleague after her husband died and told her if ever she fancied a drink or meal out, to give me a call. She took me up on my offer. On one meet up she said to me 'I go out with people now that I wouldn't have dreamt of going out with when J was alive. No offence'.

We were in Sri Lanka visiting a turtle sanctuary on the beach. The guide pointed out a very pale turtle and said

" That one is an albino. Like you, madam".

So much for prematurely snow-white hair.....

An ex boyfriend said to me ‘If you cut off the bit between your waist and knees, you’d have quite a good body’.

I am very ‘hippy’ but still ……

I need to do a bit of thinking and sifting over this. As a general rule I only remember the nice things people say about me, but, I have also had a good slew of nasty comments in my time.

The two that stick out was firstly one of several from my paternal grandmother. My sister and I were spending holidays with her when my parents were overseas and I came home from school having obtained my Gold Medal in Elocution at the third attempt and I was over the moon with delight and bouncing around and talking about it. My grandmother looked at me and said: 'Your trumpeter will not die from overwork'. Shut me up immediately

Later on at university, I was very very enamoured of someone, we had been on a couple of dates, when I was told he had said of me 'She would be quite attractive if she did something about her hair'

In my later 20 s as a new mum I was mistaken as my baby’s GRANDNMOTHER. I was upset but said nothing, but more upset when it happened another time sometime later.

In my 30 s I was mistaken for my friend’s MOTHER by a member of staff in M&S. this time I suggested she not make assumptions because my friend wasn’t my daughter but my friend, who was older than me. ! I felt better for speaking up.

Now in my late 70 s people can’t believe how ‘young’ I look.
Better late than never I suppose. .

“We’d never find you crying in the toilets ‘. Said in anger as I tried to calm anxieties about yet another restructuring
I’d found that team member weeping in the toilets , made cups of tea, reassured etc, or so I’d thought 🌞

There have been a few- all on GN, never in RL.

A child I was teaching many years ago told me, " I was really, really, really, really old. You must be at least 36." I was considerably older so I took this as a backhanded compliment.

I have also fallen foul of snide comments about my 5ft 1 height. Yet people praise tall people like it's an achievement. It's just genetics. I tell people I am the sane height as Kylie Minogue.

Not really an insult as such but before I turned 60 the pharmacist said I'd only got to wait a couple of months before getting my prescription for free. At the time, I did not want to be reminded.

My husband (who's a bit on the large side) once turned sideways to let a colleague pass him on a narrow corridor. His colleague said "I don't think that's going to help much".

After a week trialling contact lenses and deciding not to go ahead and to keep my specs, a colleague said he was glad I'd gone back to glasses as "you do have a bit of a conk, don't you".

Annobel

After I'd left my last school prizegiving with a load of prizes, one of my old primary school teachers came up to me and said: 'Well, I'd never have expected that of you!' What a backhander that was!

Similar for me was after passing 8 O Levels all Grade 1 or 2 my history teacher "Well that must have been luck or poor marking.. I expected you to fail most of them including history!"

I took History A level and got Grade A. She didnt teach me for A level and never spoke to me re my A level grade! Probably a good thing after her O level nastiness to me!

After receiving good exam results my Grandma told me, " That you are either clever or pretty."

granto7

Years ago I was told that if I stood sideways and put my tongue out I would look like a zip

That is awful! Should be funny but certainly isn’t!