Worried about adult son's relationship

Oh goodness how I feel for you, it's very difficult isn't it? we never stop worrying about our children even when they are adults. It's only natural to want to see him happy and settled. I think your reaction is probably quite normal, when a similar thing happened to my son I felt overwhelmed by my feelings. I found this site enormously helpful, somewhere I could speak my mind and be understood. It enabled me to help my son by not clouding his issues with mine if that makes any sense?
the thing is it may happen to millions of people ever day as you say in your post but right now it's happeneing to your son and you.This place is very good for letting out your thoughts no matter how mad/daft they seem. Mums who worry about their children, no matter how old they are, tend to be rather good parents you know! The opposite would mean you didnt care. Be kind to yourself, I received some very good advice along these lines and it made a huge difference to how I coped with seeing my son unhappy. That old saying this too will pass has proved to be true for my son and hopefully will be true for yours.

Sorry about spelling - smart phone plus fat fingers !

The only way to not worry is to not have children!.
Ours are 30/35 with children of their own, but we worry about them morr than ever now. It is what parents do. So don't worry that you worry about them it is what we do. Just tell yourself that in 6 months time you will just be worrying about something different and todays problem will hsve sorted itself out.

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We never stop worrying about our offspring whatever their age. The feeling of helplessness is difficult to cope with, but we have to let them make their own mistakes and just be there for them if things go wrong. I know I too worry more as I get older, probably because I am retired and have fewer other things on my mind. I hope you will find it helpful to come on here and offload your thoughts, it definitely puts things in proportion when we hear other similar stories (and worse).
I hope your son finds happiness, even if it is not with the current GF.

Pigeon I know how you feel! Some of us Gransnetters worry when things are not going well for our children's relationships and others seem to sail through it and not let it get to them. When you can foresee heartbreak for your children it's hard not to feel anxious about them going through some turmoil. I hope it works out for them both without too much pain