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Grannyknot Tue 04-Jun-13 16:46:37

Wasn't sure where to put this but then thought it fitted with relationships, in this case my relationship with a car plus with husband where cars are concerned. He bought a car about 3 years ago without consulting me excepting in a vague sort of way shock. Anyway very nice car and lovely to be a passenger in it but I hate driving it because it feels "too big", it has a long bonnet that I feel I can't see over properly. Husband says I am imagining it - but being told every time I go out in it "Don't scrape the car" doesn't help.

We're going to replace it soon and when I said "This time could I please test drive too" he kind of threw down the gauntlet by saying "Why don't you suggest what to replace it with?" Do I have a clue about cars? No...... all I want is one that will reliably get me from A to B.

So - here are my questions: is there such a thing as a car that is better or preferable to drive for women than men? What cars to other women drive/prefer? (for town and freeway driving) I'm not talking small tanks.

JenniferEccles Wed 20-May-26 12:52:21

Yes! It’s easily done through. I don’t suppose many folk check the date before responding.

Cossy Wed 20-May-26 12:46:50

JenniferEccles

It’s annoying, isn’t it Cossie ?
Sometimes old threads are resurrected by advertisers, but I’m not sure what happened here.

Yes and I always feel such a fool responding!

JenniferEccles Wed 20-May-26 12:39:40

It’s annoying, isn’t it Cossie ?
Sometimes old threads are resurrected by advertisers, but I’m not sure what happened here.

Cossy Wed 20-May-26 12:22:13

JenniferEccles

Woops! I’ve just seen the date!
I expect the OP has had a few cars since!

Grrrr Where do these blooming posts pop up from!! Very annoying!

Cossy Wed 20-May-26 12:21:35

JenniferEccles

Perhaps you could state that you most definitely do want to test drive any potential new car, as well as being involved in choosing one.
As you will both be driving it, your input and opinion is just as important as your husband’s.

As far as makes go, well that’s down to personal preference as well as budget, but I love the reversing camera on our relatively new one.

Also although ours are not automatic, the general opinion from most folk is that they would never go back to manual.
That’s another consideration too !

Me too!

JenniferEccles Wed 20-May-26 12:21:16

Woops! I’ve just seen the date!
I expect the OP has had a few cars since!

Cossy Wed 20-May-26 12:21:09

We have a Vauxhall Mokka, automatic, it’s great for me at 5ft 2”

JenniferEccles Wed 20-May-26 12:18:49

Perhaps you could state that you most definitely do want to test drive any potential new car, as well as being involved in choosing one.
As you will both be driving it, your input and opinion is just as important as your husband’s.

As far as makes go, well that’s down to personal preference as well as budget, but I love the reversing camera on our relatively new one.

Also although ours are not automatic, the general opinion from most folk is that they would never go back to manual.
That’s another consideration too !

Mamie Wed 20-May-26 12:11:08

Hadn't seen this was an old thread. How times and cars change!

Mamie Wed 20-May-26 12:09:09

I have a VW ID3 electric. It is solidly built, a very comfortable smooth ride, with a good turning circle. I get about 200 miles from a full charge. That takes about 30 minutes in our local Sainsbury's car park while doing the shopping.

petra Wed 20-May-26 12:08:10

Have the 2 posters above seen the date on the OP. June 2013

Hithere Wed 20-May-26 11:59:47

Getting a car is a major financial decision

Couples usually choose the car together

Is this the first time he makes such a big unilateral purchase without your input?

suzy Wed 20-May-26 11:43:34

I have been left some money and as my car is 21 years old I thought it is a good time to buy a nearly new car. I have so far tested 2 Kia’s a ford puma and a Toyota Yaris which my son has said would be a good car to buy. I have always had old manual cars, and the Yaris is automatic and a hybrid, I can’t seem to decide , but as the MOT runs out the end of June on my old fiesta, time is not on my side. Any advice would be welcome.

grannyactivist Thu 13-Jun-13 17:51:58

Motorbike? I cannot for the life of me understand the appeal. [shudder]
As for cars, I've only ever had two (Fiesta and a Peugeot 306) and my current car (shared with husband) is due to be replaced this year, but it will probably be next year before we actually get around to it. It will probably be another Peugeot and (second-hand) price will most likely be the deciding factor along with fuel consumption.
My son's girlfriend has just won a £9000 car in a competition and has decided to keep it, rather than sell it on, as she assumes it will be the only time in her life that she will have a brand new car. smile

Biker Thu 13-Jun-13 17:40:18

Sorry can't resist
A motorbike is the way - complete freedom, the wind in your face, the best folk in the world to chat too at the coffee stops - and only half the cost for tyres grin

Tegan Wed 05-Jun-13 14:06:38

I also tend to avoid new models of cars as they often seem to have design faults that will need ironing out. We bought a new Metro years ago that was the first of it's kind and, when they phoned up to see how we were getting on with it, my ex [who was an engineer] spent about an hour telling them all the things that was wrong with it.

Tegan Wed 05-Jun-13 14:04:15

Berlingos have good all round visibility, something that I miss in modern day cars. I once bought a car from my son. I couldn't reach the accelerator pedal properly and it was just a small pice of metal; I felt too low down and the seat didn't adjust. I hadn't tried it before I bought it from him. I'm sure it's what made the arthritis in my knee much worse. It finally started cutting out and the garage couldn't get to the bottom of what was causing it. I'm sure it's one of the reasons why I lost my confidence driving. If only I tried it out first.

Movedalot Wed 05-Jun-13 13:04:11

We have just bought a new car and spent quite a long time deciding what was most important to us so perhaps this list will help:

Is fuel economy important - if it is and you do a lot of mileage, get a diesel. Automatics use more fuel than manuals. There is a huge variation between different cars.

How close is the nearest dealership? You don't want to have to travel a long way for a service

Do you want one which is higher off the ground?

How much do you want the car to think for you? The more gizmos the more you will pay.

What is your budget?

Do you want it right away or are you happy to wait for it?

Do you need a large boot?

How often will people be in the back? Do you need room for child seats and adults?

Do you really need 4 doors?

Do you live somewhere where a 4 x 4 would be useful? They use more fuel?

Is the cost of car tax important?

Do you want to buy one made in the UK?

These points helped us make a decision and we are happy with the one we made.

laidback Wed 05-Jun-13 00:17:57

I have a Mini, fun to drive, like a go cart on country lanes but hard suspension! bigger than you think. Looks cute.smile

Hunt Tue 04-Jun-13 23:10:04

My favourite is a Berlingo, it has the most comfortable passenger seats. My sister is on her third. Jeremy Clarkson seems to like it too so it obviously appeals to men as well.

ninathenana Tue 04-Jun-13 23:09:09

I love my very reliable five door Corsa. It has a roomy boot and with the rear seats dropped it can accomodate an amazing amount. Previous car was a Vectra which had a long bonnet. I was dubious about changing to a short sloping bonnet but soon got used to it.

Luckily I don't have a problem with who chooses our car as DH doesn't drive

Grannyknot Tue 04-Jun-13 22:53:00

I'm also 5'3" and that's the problem with the current car, it feels as if I sit too low and it's fiddly to change the height of the driver's seat. Shysal I'll make sure of that. Mishap (1) I like your research strategy. (2) [my lips are sealed]. Will check out some of the suggestions!

Aka Tue 04-Jun-13 20:22:25

I would love an electric car at some time in the future. And today in a car park in Coventry I saw about a dozen recharging points for these cars. I wonder if in years to come this will be the norm?

Charleygirl Tue 04-Jun-13 19:48:58

I love my Nissan Micra and it reminds me if I leave the lights on or whatever when I am about to exit the car.The boot also holds a reasonable amount. When it needs to be replaced, I think that I will buy another.

Mishap Tue 04-Jun-13 18:35:52

PS But don't forget that for many men a car is not a means of getting from A to B, but an extension of a failing organ!