SIL the fridge monster.

Same thoughts here just glanced at times for a couple of other posts.

If not when.

I wonder what they want to be when they grow up?

I have had just that thought, Phoenix and several have posted round about the same time, which could indicate that someone is having fun signing up under various names (some of which MAY have similarities) and posting things designed to be insulting or disruptive.

I agree wholeheartedly with you phoenix

phoenix you tell him! But you are so right.

newist I think that the name was chosen so that it did remind one of Guantanamo Bay !!!!

Now, putting myself in the firing line, am I alone in thinking that just lately there seems to be a fair few new members (nothing wrong with that, all are welcome) who choose a fairly old and possibly contentious thread on which to make their first post?

If you are new and genuine , welcome, if you're not, then either sod off or find a slightly more original way to attempt a wind up.

Another wind up, I think.

That was tongue-in-cheek, wasn't it, GrantanamoMay ? because if it wasn't, Glassortwo would be justified in being very annoyed with you.

She has not been "taken in" to his house by a kind and generous son-in-law to whom she should be grateful that he cares enough to give a home to a poor old soul. She is sharing their house with them until they can all move together into a house on which she has been doing much of the renovation. there will be separate accommodation for both parts of the family.

Mean while she does most of the childcare and the food shopping and coooking, and generally works her socks off for her family. At weekends she goes and toils physically to get the new home from derelict into habitable.

She does not like him shoving things back in all the wrong places. She fills the fridge with good things, arranged so that meat does not drip onto cream cakes. She already kills him with kindness. she does not want him to kill everyone with frood poisoning.

I would be concerned if that was my name because it sounds like
Guantanamo Bay!!

You have really got hold of the wrong end of the stick GrantanamoMay, we are not talking about some little old lady who needs taking care of. Unless of course you are the naughty SIL in disguise

Next time he's been at it & you can't find something (or pretend you can't!) you could ask him to come and find it. Do that a few times and he might give up!

I think you're being quite unreasonable about your SIL. He's letting you stay in his house and I'd be grateful that you have someone caring enough to take you in. Maybe you should put nice things in the fridge for him to snack on and he'll probably soon appreciate it.

Kill him with kindness.

It's always best if you can turn things like this off with a laugh and a joke, to diffuse any atmosphere, or worse, escalation.

For what it's worth I agree with a lot that has already been said Glass I think SiL is pushing you to see if/when you will eventually snap. His remarks about the fridge are at best childish and I think he is just trying to show you that he is the boss. Perhaps it's time to lay things on the line and remind him who it is looking after his children and cooking his meals in order for him and your DD to go to work without any hassle (and cost) of outside child are. He needs to see that things can't always be one sided and you can only take so much. I do hope you and DH have a lovely (and very well deserved) break.

Hope there is room for two fridges in your new kitchen.
Sorting out the fridge is a job I usually get asked to do at DD1's as everything goes in the fridge, even flour etc (it's tropical), so SIL can never find his continental sausages etc. However his beer is in another fridge outside thank goodness.

I would think all of this has knocked you sideways, it is strange how something which on the surface seems a small matter in its self, can make you rethink all of your life and future, I wish you well with whatever you do. Thats good to know the baby has settled a bit better, hopefully your DD will get a bit of rest now. Whenever I accidentally intentionally make an error in knitting I tell everyone its so I can pick it out, in case there are 2 of them

That's it though, isn't it? He's being extremely childish so I would treat him like a child and ignore him.

How do you put up with such childish behaviour. I should feel like leaving all the shopping out for him to put away, if he is so fussy about where it goes. When I visit my DD and SiL I never change anything around in the fridge, but I am not responsible for the cooking and shopping. He should think himself fortunate that someone else is!! Strange folk -men!!!

In the new house it is divided up into our own personal areas, but intend to have communal areas such as the main living areas, kitchen etc, there will be 2 living rooms so we each can do our own thing.

When the idea was floated it was something that DD and SIl were very eager to take part in.

merlot no moving things around the fridge isnt such a big deal, but why has he just started this strange behaviour! Also the same could be said of how I feel living in DD and SIL house and being made to feel uneasy shouldnt the same rules not apply to both.

I have got plenty to mull over when we are away next week.

new the baby is coming on lovely, he had his tongue tie snipped on Saturday and he has settled down, a much more contented baby. I don't know how DD has managed to keep up with his constant need to feed.
The knitting is growing and I am quite impressed with myself, but I have warned DD if she finds any mistakes its to make it unique.

Glass decamp him into a shed in the garden with mini-fridge then he will realise how valuable you are to the easy running of the household.Enjoy your "together time" when you are away this coming week-end.

Who says they don't teach food safety in schools????

Polygran, I misread that first time and thought it said condiments on the top shelf where no one can find them. Ours are there but DH seems unable to see them.

Simple rule in our fridge - raw meat (nothing else) on the bottom shelf only. Drinks in the door so one can see them! Condiments on shallow top shelf so one can find them. The rest is fairly chaotic. However, we have a separate beer, wine and mixers fridge in the utility room.
Sounds to me, that he needs his own personal drinks fridge if there is space.
DH takes everything out if he can't immediately see what he is looking for and the just puts them back randomly. It's not any form of statement, just the way he is. He woulnt bother looking in the bottom raw meat section though unless about to cook a meal.
They dont teach food safety at school these days! Maybe he needs teaching about salmonella risk etc.

We were on the way to DS's house this afternoon and I heard this long drawn out scream and I said to DH " goodness what was that " ? Having just read your post glass I now know it was you venting your frustration
DH tells me I put the kitchen roll on the stand the wrong way he turns it over, I go into the kitchen and turn it back and so it continues.