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I want my mum to find happiness

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julesiekate Wed 11-Jun-14 14:55:40

I hope it is ok to be using Gransnet if I am not a Granny - I have two young children and a fabulous mother who is the best granny in the world smile
I want to ask all you fabulous people about how you think your children could help you after divorce/separation/widowhood?
I watched my mum go through ten years of hell before she finally found the courage to get up and get on with her life after my dad left her for a woman half his age (CLICHE)
I am now in the process of setting up a small organisation that gives confidence, information and peer group support to women just like her. Women who have everything except youth on their side. But it is really hard to access them! So many of my friends tell me their mum would be PERFECT for us but they don't know how to approach them etc etc.
What would it take to get you involved with a group like this? How would you like to be approached?
I'd love your input. Thank you so much

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Mishap Wed 11-Jun-14 15:16:22

Perhaps you could outline in more detail what this group might be and how it might function. I am not clear exactly what you have in mind. Something local and face-to-face? Something national and online? A support group, or an advice-giving organisation? Ru by whom? It would be good to hear what you are thinking of.

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PRINTMISS Wed 11-Jun-14 15:20:09

Julesiekate Is you mum unhappy?

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julesiekate Wed 11-Jun-14 16:49:19

Definitely face to face. The online community serves so many (brilliant) functions but we are interested in building peer support networks. Our focus groups have brought to light the need for women to have other women around them - particularly at weekends when people tend to be doing more 'couply' things. We are running a conference on the 22nd, and we have had lots of interest but translating interest to activity is difficult. It seems to be friends/family who say there is a need but they feel awkward suggesting it to the person in question because they don't want to suggest their is a problem. Many of the women who are coming are coming with a friend, which is fabulous but may be missing people who don't have another person to bring along.
I am a psychotherapist (as are the two people I'm doing this with) so we have many years of experience dealing with people who are at a crossroads - but this is NOT intended to be therapy. The speakers at our conference come from a wide variety of backgrounds but mainly therapy/life-coaching.
We want this to be about empowerment and building on existing skills - advice giving without straying too much into the personal.
The tough line is between empowerment/help-giving and advice/education.

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