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What should someone do when their marriage breaks down?

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Alima Sun 07-Sept-14 18:37:08

My daughter's marriage is over. Her OH is an angry and bad tempered man, there is no future for them, what should she do first? Their son is a toddler. The husband is going to anger-management therapy. The situation seems to have calmed down recently. They have a mortgage, should they sell the house first, (does he have to agree as it is a joint mortgage), should she go for Mediation to enable her to file for divorce? Money is tight, until building works in our own house are complete (hopefully within 3 months) my daughter and grandson have nowhere to comfortably go. What should we advise her to do?

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JessM Sun 07-Sept-14 19:09:36

She is entitled to stay in the family home until her youngest child leaves full time education. But that assumes she wants to do this, and that she can get a bad tempered man (a bully?) to move out and do his bit to support her and the child. But whatever she wants to do, I would not advise selling the house until a legal agreement about divorce and maintenance has been reached.Or making any other rushed financial decisions at this difficult time. Get legal advice is what I would advise.

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jinglbellsfrocks Sun 07-Sept-14 20:13:04

But the anger management course might be successful. You say things have calmed down. Are you sure you are not jumping the gun a bit? Could you not be supportive whilst encouraging them to work things out together?

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