hello Gransnetters,
Not sure where to start where to start this post (and sorry, it's long!). Hoping somebody with a similar experience may be able to help?
I brought my 2 children up alone (father died when they were babies). Had some very troubled years with my eldest (daughter) through her late teens/early 20s, but she now seems settled and happy.
Now having a difficult time with my son and not sure how to handle things, so far I seem to be doing very badly!
At 20 he met a new gf, who already had a 4 year old. 5 mths in a baby was on the way.
OK, so as you do, I came to terms with this and of course my gd is gorgeous! At this point my son was living with his gf at her parents with her older sister and her bf too. 3 couples, one 4 y.o and a baby.
Eventually cracks showed, my son desperately wanted to get their own place, so I helped them with deposit etc. I was over the moon - finally I would be able to visit (had been quite squeezed out) and I thought they should be living independently as a little family. The gf's family took against me, especially the other grandmother - it wasn't nice! But that's another story and dust has settled now.
After 6 months living together my son and his gf broke up so in Feb.he moved back in with me and I don't know what's gone wrong.....
We have my gd here every other weekend. 10 weeks after breaking up with the ex, while I was on a long hol, he got another gf and brought her to stay here while I was away. By the time I got back she had firmly got her feet under the table - and she's only 18!
He's wanted her to stay, which I've given in to while trying to lay down rules about how often etc. I can't 'gel' with the new gf, don't really understand why and that's where the problem is. I've tried telling myself his choice in partner is nothing to do with me but he knows I'm not keen. I try not to voice my opinion but that makes me look quiet/moody.
Things spilled over last weekend when he had her here almost the whole weekend when I'd said one night only. He threatened to move out, I called his bluff and told him to do it. So he is! This Friday. Course he's excited. I'm sad, knowing it's the last time I will live with him and it's not been happy, knowing my gd will obviously not be at mine every other weekend any more. When will I see her? She lives with her mother and my son's weekend will be spent with his new gf.
This weekend we clashed again, so I went to a friend's to keep the peace. He read my phone while I was out! He saw a msg I sent my friend earlier saying the gf was driving me nuts. He then sent my friend a msg about me which she said was awful, she was very shocked at how he spoke about me.
I know moving out is the best for both of us, can't live with Mum forever! I so want to send him on his way with a smile but I'm finding it impossible. Was hoping our last weekend would be more about him, me and my gd but the gf was around all the time. Is it simple jealousy on my part?
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