DS of adopted daughter getting married.

Ask your daughter for advice.

I hate to buy gifts which people then pass on or put in drawers it's a complete wast of money.

Nellie that's a lovely idea

Teetime It's very good to hear you managed to "find" your daughter.

How about getting together a collection of your family photographs and as much history about them as you can.
Your Grandaughter might be interested in that some day even if that info stays with your daughter for a time

It must have been an amazing experience for you to get to meet her again.

Nina - we hadn't even got that far!!!!

I agree a nice frame is a good idea.

I can sell you one if you like, it used to have a photo of DD and spermie in.
I can't use it for anything else as it has wedding rings in one corner

(no offence)

bags, I think the cake is for his sister when she get married.

I think a very nice photo frame, not necessarily silver if it's not to his taste.

Do whatever you would like - and can afford - to do. I feel it is not a time for considering formal courtesies - even though you don't have a close relationship, he is still your grandson.

Isn't a wedding cake a wedding gift? I would regard it as one in the circumstances described.

Good suggestions - I was thinking a cheque but its so impersonal. he is a lovely young man even if he s very tattooed!!!

I always give a silver frame as a wedding gift as I think most couples will have certain photographs of special ocassions they will want to display. I know this gift has been well received and actually used.

How lovely that you are reunited with your daughter and family.

My only suggestion might be something lasting, a modern silver photo frame perhaps from a silver designer.

I would ask your daughter as she will know the couple's taste. x

You would definitely want to buy him something special. He is your grandson.

I would consult DD I think. A "token" gift or something special perhaps, but it is difficult as he clearly does not seem to want the "wedding guest or gift list" palaver. (good for them!)