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jeanie99 Thu 28-May-15 17:24:48

Hang on Grannya. I'm 70 years old and not ailing, ok I have a few health issues but they don't stop me doing everything I want to do.

I'm off dinghy sailing for two weeks this Sunday, no laying on the beach for me.

I know I am lucky you can't put a price on feeling well and I am so thankfully believe me.

Not everyone is in a bad way at 70 fingers crossed you'll be a happy 90 year old.

Marelli Wed 20-May-15 16:45:44

DH is 11 years older than me, and definitely much, much fitter. He walks miles almost every day, keeps our large garden very tidy, and also family gardens as well. smile

kittylester Wed 20-May-15 11:47:25

I don't think it's about looks either or DH would have disappeared into the sunset by now. And, whether a marriage lasts or not is also dependent on how the couple grow, together or apart. I think that is largely a matter of luck!

Nelliemoser Wed 20-May-15 07:31:44

Jings my thoughts as well! It's impossible to know what they will be like and the pair of them, particularly the man getting a decent hair cut could take years off how he looks.

NfkDumpling Wed 20-May-15 06:43:30

I think most people of their generation will have lovely teeth into old age - hopefully I will now I've got my nice new caps!

grannyactivist Tue 19-May-15 17:50:55

phoenix you are too, too kind. blushgrin

rosequartz Tue 19-May-15 17:46:41

They both still have lovely teeth even in their 90s!! I did think they both still looked quite young in their 50s (better than I did anyway).

I will be in my 70s after this week - remind me not to get a hairstyle like that - very ageing. grin

ga I am sure you still look gorgeous - and your personality won your DH over too!

Anne58 Tue 19-May-15 17:26:30

Just to add, GA may say that he didn't marry her for her looks, but that doesn't alter the fact that she is rather gorgeous!

HildaW Tue 19-May-15 16:14:17

My husband in 69 to my soon to be 60 and in many ways he is a lot fitter than me!

grannyactivist Tue 19-May-15 16:13:17

jingl you're absolutely right to think that I won't be ailing just because I'm seventy. grin My mother at seventy was as fit as she'd ever been.
But as I have had ongoing health problems for a great many years already and I know the prognosis I am pretty certain that I will continue (if I live that long!) to be an 'ailing' seventy year old. I'm as fit and active as I can be in the circumstances and I certainly will never just 'give in', but the reality is that I won't get any better and my condition worsens with age - fact!
My husband really is a Wonderful Man and we manage my bouts of ill health very well, but I know he quietly worries about me. I had a fairly frenetic weekend and by the end of it I was seriously unable to speak coherently - so he called me from work yesterday morning because he was concerned that my speech difficulty may have been cause by a TIA rather than my (mild) cognitive impairment, which becomes more obvious when I'm tired.
The film just made me momentarily aware of what's ahead I suppose.

Eloethan Tue 19-May-15 16:06:48

Ridiculous I know, but that made me cry.

These young people seemed to cope well with seeing their elderly selves, which was sweet, but I don't think it's a couple's changing appearance that affects how they feel about each other in later years. Their optimism was touching and I hope it continues.

rosequartz Tue 19-May-15 15:48:28

My BIL is 9 years younger than my SIL.
He has a job to keep up with her!

Grannyknot Tue 19-May-15 15:38:25

ga my FIL was just short of 10 years younger than my MIL - they met when she was 38 with 5 kids and he was 27. They lived together happily for 40 years and he died 7 years ago in his 60s; and she is still alive at 85. Sadly she has advanced Alzheimers.

You never can tell, can you?

NfkDumpling Tue 19-May-15 14:34:10

(GA - the impression I get on GN is that you need a younger husband to be able to keep up with you!)

NfkDumpling Tue 19-May-15 14:31:19

It's really weird isn't it! To me my DH has aged pretty well, but I always assumed I'd take after my paternal GM as when I was young I was always being told how much like her I was. I haven't. She had good bone structure and was thin and graceful. I have double chins, rather too much around the midrif and have the arthritic knee waddle. Ho hum!

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 19-May-15 14:28:19

Sorry grannya, but that is rubbish. Absolute junk!

Why do you think you will be "ailing" just because you are seventy? Why wouldn't you be fit and healthy too?

grannyactivist Tue 19-May-15 12:05:24

I've just watched this: www.boredpanda.com/young-couple-aged-with-make-up-field-day-tavis-christie/ and found myself quite moved. I'm ten years older than my husband and I suspect there'll be quite a difference between myself when I'm an ailing seventy year old woman and my husband is a fit and healthy sixty year old man. Thank goodness he didn't marry me for my looks!