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As I understand it, gapcap, grandparents have no automatic legal right to see or be in contact with their grandchildren, and most people would do exactly the same as you - try to resolve this amicably by discussing it with both parties.

What about inviting your granddaughter's mum to meet you for coffee and cake somewhere? Don't immediately launch into demands or requests, but try to build friendly and respectful bridges? You might even say that in your (written) invitation - you understand she has reservations about more contact with you, and at the moment you are happy with just having a more friendly relationship with her, and then take it from there? She might be ok about you taking your granddaughter to some specific outing or event, as an occasional one off, rather than making it 'every Tuesday night' or whatever.

I hope you resolve this.

Thanks Elena, My next move was going to be to ask her to meet for coffee,but since she isnt answering my messages that is proving difficult! She does allow grandaughter to come to other grandchildrens parties or the like, its just that we have ponies here for the grandchildren and my grandaughter loves to ride, and feed all the animals on our farm so it would be lovely for all of us if she could come more often as my other little grandchildren do. Thank you again.x

Could you post an invitation to her asking her if she would like to bring your dgd to your house?

Could you post an invitation to her asking her if she would like to bring your dgd to your house?

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