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tanith Sat 11-Jul-15 20:32:07

My eldest grownup daughter is living with us at the moment so I see her all the time but we do lead our own lives , her sister lives 10 mins away and I speak to her often and see her 2/3 times a week I mostly know whats going on with her. On the other hand my son lives abroad I see him and his little family 2/3 times a year and mostly I don't know much of what their daily lives entail..

The are all different when it comes to how much they need/contact/share with me but thats fine as long as I have some contact I'm happy. My grandchildren often pop in or check in on FB with me..

Ana Sat 11-Jul-15 20:31:47

Not daily contact, but it does fluctuate when either party is in need of support or advice!

I do think it must be harder when children are far away, geographically. As mine live quite near I don't get anxious when I don't hear from them as I know all is probably well.

merlotgran Sat 11-Jul-15 20:20:54

DD1 lives next door so lots of contact but I wouldn't say we're particularly involved in her life. We're here if she and the DGCs need us and vice versa.

Our other children live three hours away in opposite directions so we are not in daily contact other than facebook and a phone call at weekends. We only see them about twice a year but that can't be helped. The DGCs are growing up so we are no longer called on for help with childcare.

So long as we're all in touch with eachother I'm happy.

Luckylegs9 Sat 11-Jul-15 20:11:41

Do any of you find that the older you get, the less you are involved in your grown up children's lives, or is it just me? How often do you see or speak with your children. My friends seem to be in daily contact with theirs and I am sure they must wonder why mine don't.