Thank you Loopylou. I was wondering if it was just me this had happened to or alternatively if I was being overly sensitive.
I have wondered if those relatives who absented themselves felt any guilt, if they had enough heart in them to do so. Perhaps they are worried about what will happen to them in their final years, months, weeks or hours.
Thank you for your comments. I am trying to look after myself and not feel down.
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From my experience this isn't at all unusual sugarpufffairy, sadly many unpaid carers become socially isolated because of the caring role and I have known a number whose efforts during and after the caring role were criticised too. There will always be those who think they know better or could do things better - definitely my sister comes to mind- yet offer practical support? Not flipping likely!
Sometimes I think guilt plays a part, but often they will be habitual critics of everything and everyone.
You have done as tremendously difficult job as a carer, 
and ((hugs)), now it's time to look after you x
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