My grandma is very poorly

Thinking of you all.

I keep writing stuff and then deleting it 'cos There aren't the words. So I'll just send (((hugs))) and supporting vibes. xx

gillybob just seen this, so very sorry to hear how poorly your grandma is. I hope that she will be comfortable and that you will take comfort in knowing what a great granddaughter you have been for her and how much you have meant to each other. She will know you are with er at this difficult time. My thoughts are with you xx

So sorry to hear about your grandma Gillybob. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. I am sure she will receive excellent care in the hospice which will be more peaceful for all of you. Keep strong

That is good Gilly that Grandma is to be moved to the hospice, where the staff will be geared up to make her as comfortable and peaceful as possible. I hope you manage to see her as much as you can, I'm sure it will help you both. Take care of yourself and sending love x

So sorry to read your post Gilly

I'm sure you've done all that you can and I hope the end is peaceful

So sorry to hear about your heartbreaking situation gillybob. I lost my dear granny more than 20 years ago and I still miss her terribly. She passed away in hospital and sadly my mum and I got there too late. I wish I'd been there with her but I suppose it just wasn't meant to be.

My dear step father died 3 years ago and me, DH, my bro and mum were all there with him. I'm sure he knew we were and he wasn't alone. All you can do is be with her as much as you can and yes, keep chatting away. She'll know you're with her.

for you.

Gillybob I'm just reiterating what others have said, but the hospice will be a much calmer and more gentle environment for all of you. Visiting will be more pleasant with fewer 'hospital rules', if any, plus more flexible visiting times.

Gilly that sounds a very much more suitable place to be than a busy acute ward. My Dad who died at 86 having been diagnosed with duodenal cancer two months earlier, was on a noisy, busy general ward until his last couple of days. Neither of the two local hospices had places, or did not "take people from hospitals". I really felt bitter about that. They did not have a palliative care ward as they didn't have a palliative care consultant.

Gilly - when my gran was dying she too was virtually unconscious for days, and then out of the blue started talking, much to our amazement. She said "It's time I went home." So, she probably knew where she was, and was much more with it that we had realised - so we kept chatting until she slipped peacefully away.

The hospice will be well geared up to proper palliative care, and will hopefully be more peaceful for her and for your family.

Dear Gilly I am sad for you - we all know how much she means to you. It's good that she is moving to the hospice, so that you and she can be peaceful together. xxxxx

for you and your grandma . She sounds ready to go.

Thank you again everyone for your lovely comments. My grandma is being moved into a hospice within the hospital grounds over the next few days. The ward that she is currently on is a geriatric medical ward. It's extremely noisy and even though my grandma has her own room now, there is no peace with buzzers going, phones ringing and other patients shouting constantly. Also, I am told the staff/patient ratio is much better in the hospice and they concentrate more on palliative care rather than medical. Nevertheless, I am popping over to see the hospice later today (just to double check and put my mind at rest) with a view to her being moved there soon. We had hoped for her to go home but that's looking highly unlikely now as even with outside help there would only be myself and my cousin who could look after her.

Yesterday My DH and I were chatting away to her when (totally out of the blue) she said "Gilly, I wish you had a hammer to knock me over the head with" (my grandma always used to say that when she forgot something) It made me smile to think that she hasn't lost her wicked sense of humour. She then whispered that she had loved her own grandma very much and that she could "see" her as plain as day. She seems much more peaceful now. X

Gillybob, I can`t find more to say than has already been said, but thinking of you, and your lovely Grandma.

Feeling for you Gillybob. I think many of us have sat with loved ones as they gradually leave life so know how hard it is to watch. I agree with others who say that your being there and talking to your Gran is probably very comforting for her and the best thing you can do for her now. And it is true that as the body begins to fail, she is likely to fall into a deep sleep and not suffer towards the end.

((Hugs)) to you at this difficult time.

Dear gillybob I'm on holiday and just logged on for a quick catch up and saw your post. I'd like to add my heartfelt sympathy and encourage you to keep 'rambling' on to your granny, I'm sure the familiar voice of loved ones will be soothing to her.

I am so sorry to hear about your Gran, gillybob. I know how close you are to her and how much you love her. You have been lucky to have her for so long, but it doesn't make it any easier when the time comes, does it? And how lucky she is to have such a devoted granddaughter by her side, helping her on this final journey.
It sounds as though she is peaceful, for which I know you must be so grateful. Love to you and your family at this distressing time

Thinking of you gillybob. Your gran will have all her thoughts of happy times with you and other family and will no doubt slip away peacefully. You keep all those thoughts with you, you will never lose them. What a lovely long life and what tales she must have had to tell.

gillybob Many of us know how very close you are to your grandma and what a great support you have been to her.

I'm so sorry to hear she is very ill. It makes no difference how old a close relative may be - my graddad was 97 - it is still a terrible wrench when they die.

As others have said, your grandma will be comforted by having you so frequently at her side - as you have always been.

Wishing you both peace.

Thinking of you, gillybob, at this sad time. Your grandma will know you are there and will hear you.

When my mother suffered a massive stroke, she lay totally unresponsive for a week in hospital. I sat with her for hours every day, talking to her, sometimes wondering whether she could hear anything at all. My sister had been visiting her DD1 in Canada and as soon as she walked in and spoke, a tear trickled down our mum's cheek. She'd been waiting for her and died peacefully an hour later.

I feel hesitant to post as I'm new here but your situation has touched me , Gilly, while also reminding me that we all need support at these times. I am sure your Grandma will hear you and benefit. Thinking of you both. Xx

Thinking of you and your Gran tonight gillybob

When my gran was dying, the nurse told us that hearing is the last thing to go and we should go on chatting to her. We did - and it helped us to feel we were doing something constructive and that we might just have made things a bit easier for her. Thinking of you.

Gillybob I hope she can stay peaceful and comfortable. (((hugs))) from me as well.
Do keep talking to her and telling her things. You will never know but she might hear you even if she cannot respond.