Abandoned

Well of course, we all know about that Ana no complacency here ,but do please stop claiming the moral high ground because you certainly added fuel to the fire.

Ooh! How scarey is that?

Ana I think we know who's been 'running to teacher'

I'm out of the loop, here. What has been deleted? Oh, I suppose you can't say if it has been censored.

And one of yours, of course, tigger. No room for complacency on your part.

Minimalise and laugh it off if you like Anya and jinglbellfrocks but your comments were far from innocuous. It is good to know others found your comments offensive and so did HQ hence the deletion of your comments.

Goodness, someone's certainly had their finger on the 'report' button a lot this evening!

PA-THET-IC!

It's not being called a 'lady' that's the issue (sigh)

It's the comment "Ladies! Ladies!' as if a superior being is breaking up an arguement.

Goodness gracious. Some quite innocuous comments have been deleted. I think I'd like an explanation from GNGQ please? These certainly did not break forum guidelines IMO.

Could it be noted that I like being called a Lady. It's fine other Grasnetters want to be called women.

We should be given a list by HQ of various names e.g.

Lady
Woman
'Er indoors
Pet
My duck
My lovely
Other

then asked to tick the ones appropriate to ourselves.

Please add to the list.

Just 'good evening', anno?

Def not 'girls', that's really demeaning and 'guys' to a group of women is ridiculous.

I'd rather the staff in restaurants referred to me and friends as 'ladies' rather than 'girls' or, worse still, 'guys'. How do you expect the Maitre d' to address you as you enter the restaurant? 'Good evening women'? 'mesdames' perhaps - if it's a posh establishment?

Going to the hairdresser is the only time I get to be called, 'My lady'

I much prefer it though to the Fenland over familiarity of 'My woman'

It's quite interesting, isn't it? In my mother's day it was akin to an insult to call a female person a woman as 'lady' was the polite term. But now things seem to have changed so that 'lady' is not acceptable to many of us and we prefer 'woman'. However, it's only words, no point in getting het up about it.

I much prefer being referred to as a lady rather than a woman.
But then I know I'm very old fashioned prim and proper!
I can't help it.
It was the way I was dragged up

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

When I said there were a lot of short fuses, it was not meant as any excuse, but an observation. Name-calling is out of order at any time, and while GG may have reported the post too, she was not the only one as I certainly did.

Jingl may laugh it off, but it was a gratuitous insult and designed as a put down. No excuse to say there are other examples, 2 or more wrongs do not make a right and there are more important things in life than storms in teacups over whether or not a person likes/dislikes being referred to as a ladyguy/girl/ old bat.

Chill!

We're supposed to be responsible grandparents, what kind of message are we sending out.
tigger I sincerely hope that our DGC are not reading these threads

Throwing accusations of bullying is hardly something we should be promoting if we are, as you say, tigger, " responsible grandparents".
"Abusing fellow members", you say,

If it is not seen as "patronising" - and even if it is, could I suggest more tolerance all round?

Are you saying that you reported tigger's post, Gracesgran?

Eh?

Hmm...seems as though others, several times, do no have the same idea of 'not out of order' as GNHQ's.

Please believe that I have no shame and will report these sorts of comments every time. I am sure, eventually, they will realise these attacks are not popular.

What was valid about your attack? Your opinion versus mine!

Fair comment tigger but I only usually 'attack' if there's a valid reason, which there certainly wasn't in this instance.

You over reacted.

And you too Anya, how many times have you responded to a comment not directed at you?

What a lot of fuss kicked up about nothing. I didn't see tiggers deleted post, she'd do well to remember it was her post that escalated a simple comment which wasn't even addressed to her.

Calm down dear!