Odd Situation

I could and I am in a similar situation. I could still forgive even though such cruel things have happened. I would do it for the GC but also because hatred eats away at the hater.

Nonnie I don't hate him. He and I can still have a civilized conversation, just ! DH never took to him from day one and the feeling is mutual As you say we would do for the boys but would feel uncomfortable with it. A lot of DH's problem with him now is the way he uses the boys as pawns.

It might depend on the circumstances of the divorce (but it's OK I am not asking).

No problem Alea the divorce is currently being discussed.

In our case nina, I'd be the one likely to lose it so have sympathy with your DH. Hope it passed off well!

In our case though the Idiot would never have the children!

Having also gone through DS's divorce with 3 DGC involved, our attitude was not to take sides although obviously giving DS all the support we could. Our ex-DIL could have been very difficult wrt our access, and we didn't want to provoke any reaction. Five years later, both parties have remarried someone else, and we generally have all the contact we ask for. Interestingly, ex-DIL's parents still adore our DS, and have a lot of contact with him.

Sorry nina didn't intend that as a comment for you or your DH, rather a general comment and how I feel personally. Implied nothing more than how I feel. If you knew what we have been through and are still going through you would forgive me for thinking of it from my own point of view.

Nonnie apology appreciated but completely unnecessary. It wasn't taken personally.

I haven't heard from DD yet today, so don't know how it went. I can't wait to find out.

How grown up and civilised of them all.

I'm not sure I could be so generous but it's lovely for the sake of the children that they are. I hope it all went well.

I could do it for the kids, too. Would I feel uncomfortable? Depends a lot on the circumstances of the divorce, I think, and my previous relationship w/ the ex.

One caveat - Even if the kids wanted it, if I felt there would be tension and that they would feel it, I would probably think twice.

Hope it all worked out, last night, nina. Pleas let us know when you hear.

I do wish all couples could be civilised about it for the sake of the children. So many men give up because of all the difficulties from controlling women and many commit suicide. How does that help the children?

Without saying too much, it went well and the ex is driving her to the airport tomorrow.

Sounds good, Nina! Thanks for telling us!

Progress is good nina!

DD's ex flew off to a new job and a new life on Friday and a civilised relationship was maintained up to the end. She and the GC had a meal with him and his new love on Thursday evening,
I told her she was mad but she put the children first. I think it was at a very high cost to her. I just hope she can move on now.

Yes kitty DD says he's 'grown up' and can see where he went wrong.
Progress indeed !!

Great news nina. I really hope it lasts. And, any tips would be welcome.

I hope things start to improve now for your DD and dgc ann and that they can move on.