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Parenting and grandparenting philosophy

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Mamar2 Fri 26-Feb-16 11:16:09

I got the book 'The Prophet' which this piece of writing is from years ago. Absolutely spot on. Beautiful wise words.

Luckylegs9 Fri 26-Feb-16 06:29:02

That is a beautiful poem, I should have a copy on my wall.

Wendysue Fri 26-Feb-16 06:25:47

LOVE this poem! And have always tried to live by it, as a mother and, yes, now, as a GM.

If only my own mother, as lovely as she was, had understood that you can't "give" your kids your "thoughts." She was often surprised - and frustrated - when she found I didn't do/believe advice she had given to me, despite her best efforts to give me good "reasons" for it. She just assumed that if she said I should do something for this, that and the other reason, I would just automatically accept/do it. This may have worked when I was a little kid, but not so much in my teens and once I was an adult? No. Yet, even then, she was often shocked and sometimes angry when it didn't (sigh).

Leticia Thu 25-Feb-16 15:46:17

I think everyone should be given a copy at birth.
I go with 'give them roots and give them wings' and 'it takes a village to raise a child'.
I think that if you give them unconditional love, security and boundaries , and time, you can't go far wrong.

Imperfect27 Thu 25-Feb-16 14:06:25

I found myself quoting the following to my DD this week - such a beautiful and profound piece of writing that really did guide me in my parenting.

On Children
by Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

A good philosophy for when we become grandparents too methinks.