Sister wants to know what she's getting!

no it isnt you....people seem to expect something when a family member dies and it also brings the worst out in people...
good on you for turning your phone off...
I am sorry for your loss...

Sad situation rubylady
H's sister was the same when their mum died. MiL and her had been estranged for years. That didn't stop her declaring at the funeral what she thought she should have from MiLs flat.

I suppose if he didn't leave a Will they might think they were due to inherit something, although from what you've said, rubylady, there wouldn't be much after all the bills, funeral account etc. were paid (which they've left you to sort out by yourself!)

rubylady well done with turning the phone off. Little steps, but you will get stronger and stronger.

My brother didn't even leave it until the funeral to ask to go into his flat to get any stuff he could, he said about it while my dad lay dying!

There is a will and I know how much they will get, but I am not about to say anything yet because, as you say Ana the bills have to be sorted out yet and besides, they don't deserve to know just yet. My sister (single) has a good job, lives in her own house and has two lodgers helping pay her mortgage so she should be able to afford to sort her car out if I can manage my money on benefits very well. She has borrowed off me before now, never paid me back, but isn't it funny when she has the job and I have a very limited income. That's because her and my brother are out all the time **ing it up the wall (pardon the french, but that's what they do).

She hadn't seen my dad for years and then had the cheek to go and ask him for the deposit for her house, and he was willing to give it to her. He didn't, she got it elsewhere but she didn't see him again until he was dying.

ruby hang in there girl! Just tell your siblings to contact the solicitor. It is not your job to tell them what they will inherit.

Judthepud is absolutely right , tell the grabbing pair to speak to the Solicitor ! It is awful that they are even asking so soon xx

It's a bit sick really - sadly it often happens when someone dies. Keep your chin up.

My mother's will stipulates that my older sister, who never visits her, is not even to be allowed to enter her cottage when she dies.

It's not you. All sorts of emotions come out when a parent dies. I lost my dad last week ( God, that's the first time I've put that on paper) so I feel your pain. Turn the phone off; keep it off until you are ready to kick her Ass! Remember though, that she has also lost a parent, and may be having a hard time adjusting.
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She may also just be a total arse, though

My sister raided my mum's house without asking/telling anyone...we thought she had been burgled!!! Fridge, telly, oven (!) etc all gone

rubylady I am so sorry that this is happening at a very difficult time. My answer would be well 'probate can take months you know' that'll scare them. When MIL died before Xmas my BIL even took the half empty packets of sweets from her house. He took all the effects and didn't want anything. I packed up the clothes for him to take to his wife and he wanted to take the knickers - I firmly put them in the bin!!!

Teetime He wanted to take his MIL knickers? That is so wierd. People are so strange, even in normal life, not just when grief can make them do wierd stuff. I've just told them that the solicitor will be in touch. Even my mother mentioned money and she divorced him 14 years ago!

IHaveAFabulousDIL I am so sorry to hear of your loss, you must be all at sixes and sevens just now. If you want to PM me you can. Look after yourself, be good to yourself. And yes, she is just an arsehole, has been for the last 20 years!

A death in the family can bring out the best AND worst in people can't it? My sympathy to all of you who are bereaved and dealing with money grabbing relatives as well.
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Had the same with my brother- and he was a a hole with my parents, borrowed money from me and never re-paid, etc, etc.

But now he is dying in hospital- I just had to wave it all away and make amends.

Good for you to.

That was supposed to say'Good for you gj '

Tell your sister to get in touch with the administrator of the estate.
This will take months, she will just have to wait till it's all settled and she may well not get any money. It's possible that there may not be any money left! . You could try telling her not to phone you. She's sounds like a very selfish greedy woman.
Good luck.