Mine is a complicated story about the struggle for my grandchildren to maintain contact with their family. Some years ago my grandchildren came under the care of social services for a while and with the help of social services I managed to maintain contact via a court order. My DS has supervised contact which for 2 years I supported. Since my court order was terminated 12 months ago the children have seen me once for a family meal which arose when I invited their Mum to lunch to try and reach some understanding on how we could work together better Mother and I do not get on. She has made it clear she does not want to deal directly with me but via my son. DS will not discuss the children with me and says I need to wait and if contact is sporadic then I have to put up with it. I am concerned that the relationship the children have formed with me and other family members is now in jeopardy. One of the reasons I had a court order is that judge was not convinced of mothers commitment in maintaining contact and I was identified as being significant person for the children. I have written requesting to see the children and after 6 weeks I have not received a response. I write to the children regularly and send gifts etc but I have little idea whether they get these or not. They are not encouraged to respond neither I am permitted to phone them. The children have had a tough time so I don't want to make things worse for them as Mum gets very easily stressed and I think the children pick up on this at the same time I don't want things to drift. Mum has a habit of culling those who upset her - this includes her own sister, and at the last contact under the old arrangements was verbally abusive to me. I do not want to involve social services but am considering family mediation as a way to resolve things for the children. I find dealing with Mum very stressful and the effort of keeping it together in the face of open and passive hostlity made me ill last year to the extent that I had counselling. I am in a good place now, enjoy great relationships with my other grandchildren, so am torn between the easier option of letting things lie or trying to sort it out for the children's sake and the stress this brings. Family mediation first thought was this is likely to end up back at court. I am not asking for massive contact just during the schools holiday. Children are 4 6 and 8. Any advice welcome.
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