Support for those estranged from family members. Moving on together,

Morning Girls

Lovely you are finally in your Florida Holiday home Smileless hopeful stress free from here on in, relax and enjoy.

Celebgran wish you better, hope you are feeling better today and get your pain sorted out

Omg smilless well I a v poorly!

Spent last night In a and e agonising pain in left groin.

It's still awful they did bloods and scanned me, but not sure if trapped nerve or bowel trouble managed see my own dr today Gra rang and surgery offered him appt ?So relieved she was lovely examined me internally etc, hospital gave me. Strong pain relief (not working) she advised if pain no better after 4 doses have call ambulance as quickest way get emergency scan,

Feeling horrid Gra now desperately trying oranise tomorrow off work.

Our son flown to Australia today so feeling very without family?
The hospital dr did ultrasound but it didn't. D
Show ovaries gp thinks if pain does t settle need that done.
Gra did tell surgery I was I hospital most night so good that we didn't get nurse ?This gp I is excellent

Sorry yogagirl welcome home lovely photos did c on f book

Rhinestone thanks eye lots better but c above not good so sorry about your daughter.

Ooh our son and partner have had offer accepted on house they like?
He flew off before became ill but didn't want worry him anyway

Lovely photo Yogagirlglad your retreat went well. It takes a few days to settle back down after you've been away, well as settled as any of us can be.

Oh Rhinestone you poor thing, you really are being put through it at the moment. I hope your DD can get something sorted out. It makes me reallywhen I hear about landlords like your D's. We have 3 rental properties, a flat and shop unit and a bungalow. As soon as there's a problem we get it sorted, it's so wrong not to keep on top of things especially when children are involved.

It's 9 in the morning here and there's plenty ofso I'm sending some to all of you. Not the best of starts; our flight was 2.5 hours late so it was a very long day. We contacted our management company before we came as one of the double beds needed replacing. Explicit instructions as to which bed needed replacing and they've replaced the wrong one!!! The perfectly good bed has been left outside so now we have to get another one.

Tumble dryer isn't working properly but I'm getting my vents cleaned as they think that's the problem so hopefully we wont have to buy a new one.

Just met the couple who've taken over the day to day care of our villa, very nice and seem very efficient so that's good. Poor woman had only been here 5 mins. when the people staying in the house opposite reversed into her car. Let's hope that's it for disasters and we can now have 4 weeks relaxation.

Here is a picture of our last meal at my Yoga Retreat in Crete
I am at the front

Morning Girls

I'm back from leading my yoga retreat in Crete, had a fabulous time! The weekend before was my ND 'Hen do', the weekend after was my sis.i.l's 60th birthday 'do' in North London, didn't get home till 2.30am, then up at 7.15 for my Sunday yoga classes, felt sooo tired after that I went to bed at 9.30 and stayed there till 7.30 the next morning, had a really good sleep, but still feel fatigued, refused cover classes today, just having a restful day till my early evening yoga.

Read all the posts, can't reply to all, but I was nodding in agreement and had a tear in my eye with some I felt sad when I got back from Crete and in a bad mood, think it's because you come back from having a good time and giving your brain a rest from the grief and sorrow, just for it to hit you all over again

4 years for me too Smileless for you
Sept was the month of their big argument and 16th Nov 2012 was the 'cut-out' day 4yrs, such a long time! I have a beautiful GD out there, 5mins away, and I haven't seen or heard of her for 4yrs!! That precious little girl has gone from being the most loved, adored and cherished little GD & Niece in the world, to being an unloved stepchild in a family of cruel, evil, heartless gypsies, how could my D, my GD mum, inflicted that on her own little girl! And of course my precious GS too, miss him just as much, but at least he has all of his father's side of the family in his life, my precious GD has none

Sorry you are feeling so stressed Smileless no surprise with your move and all that's going wrong there, things will work out in the end, buying and selling is always a nightmare! I too feel so much better when I've seen or spoken with my ND, so give your NS a few more calls for a lovely chat to make you feel better.

Nice to hear your eye op went well Rhinestone and Celebgran hope your eyes feel better today.

[Flowers] for all and God Bless

Luckylegs I just want that magical wand to wave right now. SIL went to visit his parents in another state and called my DD drunk. And his parents are okay with that?
We will see what my daughters lawyer says about the house. DD is going to court two days in a row about custody and final details. My heart breaks for my DGD when she finds out about the divorce. Yesterday she wanted to talk to daddy. Children don't understand about drugs . I'm up every night not sleeping and worrying. It's horrible that they have to live together while going thru this.

What an awful situation you are in Rhinestone, your sil just jetting off leaving his wife and children about to be homeless. I cannot see how their other grandparent live with themselves, do they just pretend their grandchildren don't exist? I want you to know I really feel for you all and hope that a miracle comes along for your daughter, one thing for sure, once she stops reeling from this and she will, she will be well shut of that useless husband and get a new life. Is there no one that can intervene and stop the landlord behaving like this? Surely there must be rules he has to keep to.

Thanks for the advice Jenpax. We are in the states but I hear what you are saying. My DD contacted a lawyer yesterday.

For Gods sake tell your daughter to ring Shelter the housing advice charity for urgent advice! I would NEVER advise anyone to withold rent it always leads to possession proceedings and can lead to a decision by the council that you have made yourself intentionally homeless! I also suggest she goes straight down to the council and speak to the homelessness team they can negotiate with the landlord and the council has the power to serve compliance notices on the landlord!

CelebgranHope your eye is getting better.
"Smileless*Enjoy your time in Florida and know that your house will sell. It's just a matter of time.
I'm extremely stressed right now that I can't even return friends phone calls. Not only will my daughters divorce be final hopefully in a month or two but they are going to be evicted from their home. And she could be evicted before the divorce and before she gets any money. Her landlord won't fix the electricity so they didn't make last months rent payment. There is no electrical power in the kids rooms,hall and bath. And the landlord won't fix it. They will have to go to court. I don't know where or how she will go with no money as she won't get any until the divorce is final. And her husband is leaving his DC again to fly off to see his parents for four days. He has taken more vacations without her and the kids at the expense of his parents. They always pay just for him. All of us here are upset because we can't see our DGC and his parents only want to see him without the kids.
I saw pics today of our EGC from my stepson. They are getting bigger and I cannot imagine what the older one thinks about where we went to. He will have another birthday soon and it breaks my heart to know we can't see him.
We have stopped sending cards or gifts as we are sure they won't tell the GC who it is from.
Wishing everyone a great weekend.??

Oh Smilelss that made me cry!

4 years omg and over 7 for us it hurts so much doesn't it.

I know exactly what you mean I love to hear my son call me mum, and just had chat to him, he is off to oz for work on Monday, giving talk on terrorism I believe in Canberra, and jetting. Back next sat omg he does get about.

They have seen a nice house that is bit cheaper than last one they like thank god, and his partners divorce come through so that's posiitve.

So glad you feeling bit better now enjoy all that sunshine ??
I reckon it was stress of house and anniversary it all gets to us.

Counsellor has now referred me for 10 more sessions of more intensive c b t as I said didn't want keep going over old ground desperate to try and let the pain go and move forward, I have to wait again but worth a try.

Miss yogagirl are you back from Crete yet? bet it was amazing,

Happy weekend all we off to gunton hall with our good friends looking forward to it. Had cut and colour done really gives me a boost?

Bit worried about Rosie she got another anal gland infection on antibiotics luckily our dear neibor having her for weekend. Vet is going try wash them out without anaesthetic next Monday due to her age bless her, she seems well and eating well fingers crossed.

Poor you Celeb, I hope your eye is feeling a little better today.

Well, 'what a difference a day makes, 24 hours'; that's a song isn't it. I felt terrible yesterday, really awful and TBH I was getting rather scared. The brick I've felt as if I've been carrying around in my chest for the last week seemed so much heavier. I was so weepy, had so much to do but couldn't get myself into gear.

Then my mobile rang and it was DS in Aus. Mr. S. had sent him a text, told him I was struggling and that he thought just the sound of his voice would make me feel better, and it did, it really did.

I cried when I heard him, how I miss being called 'mum' on what used to be a daily basis. Managed a really good nights' sleep and now we are in Manchester, ready for a lovely meal and relaxed evening before flying off to Florida tomorrow.

I feel sooo much better today and yesterday is just a bad memory. It was as if the last 4 years suddenly hit me all at once. Tomorrow will be 4 years exactly to the date that we last had contact with our GS, the last time we held him, kissed and cuddled him, the last time we saw him smile and heard him laugh.

Some anniversaries are engraved on our hearts for the joy they bring, others for the pain.

I'll send you all some Floridiandear friends.

Thanks Katek the drops seems to be helping a lot discharge almost gone already!

It's more worrying what's happening to dr surgery still we just got go with flow.

Glad you got sorted out-sight is too precious to have someone messing about. There's always the cold tea bag if all else fails!! Hope you have a more comfortable night.

Got be careful dh says they won't hesitate to get rid of awkward patiens??

Does anyone else have this system ? When we first changed to this practice you could get appts at nearby surgery now that's only open am and as said no appts with dr?

The next time you do see a real doctor, tell him what a useless article she is.

Thanks for advice ladies, I now have preservative free antibiotc eyedrops which seem be helping already. The nurse rang pharmacist and he told her what to prescribe we got there eventually had to be ordered got them today.

No elegran no urgent appts with doctors have see practice matron apparently this lady was one.

It isn't good is it?

Celebgran surely your surgery knows that you can't predict an eye infection a week ahead? Phone them and tell them it is an emergency and you NEED to see a doctor today. When you get there, tell the doctor what you have posted here.

Does your surgery have same day emergency appts celebgran? Or could optician see you today/tomorrow? They can prescribe if necessary.

Sorry to hear that Smileless, hope you can put that worry on the back burner until you have returned from Florida, which I really hope you enjoy.
Celebregran, hw worrying, can you see someone else next time?
?Yo everyone

Sorry to sat nurse I saw was not very bright it is getting difficult now, I have eye infection and she couldn't see. Fathom I am allergic to preservative took her about 10 minutes to google it k furred to ring my husband In End she rang pharmacist the. She couldn't work out at 4 times a day I. Both eyes how many drops I needed?! Had to help her omg it is worrying.

WE can't see doctor now unless prebopk week or so ahead ? This was t go do example, she was very pleasant but totally incompetent.

Thanks Celeb.

Oh Smilelss big hugs, thanks goodness you're u can still go ahead, I am not suprised your back playing up stress affects everything.

Yes I too still have all congrats on being. Grandparents cards, and a little albumn Tor gave me for my birthday full of pics of little one.

It was fiend pearl wedding and they had blessing I in church everyone sa f congratulations to us bless them it seems like lifetime ago now when I was so relaxed and happy.

Hard to think that's all gone and of the lies and twisted distorted version of her childhood she now portrays. I guess that why she is no longer in touch with any friends of family who knew different.

Got appt with nurse tnis afternoon ref eye infection was and work our surgery no longer gives appts with Drs on the day only prebppkable about week ahead ?

You will get there smiless I promise hang on I. There,
cases out for us again week d away with friends can't wait.

Oh well off acquacise have good day all smilless keep your chin up xx?If all else fails,!

Looks as if our sale has fallen through. Our buyers buyer has suddenly decided he wants them to reduce their price by 5K so plan B has been activated.

We've arranged for the deposit on our new home to be paid this week and for contracts to be exchanged so we can complete when we get back from Florida. Ours goes back on the market tomorrow.

I can't understand why my back is so bad, it hasn't been like this for ages; it must be all the stress. Mr. S. has taken the 'Under Offer' sign down so now there's just a 'For Sale' back outside.

I'd like to be a fly on the wall when ES sees ours is for sale again, he'll probably be wondering what the hell's going on (me too).

I remember that feeling Celeb when our first GC was born.
Mr. S. made an announcement at Chapel the following day and received a round of applause. I still have all of the 'congratulations on being a GP' cards we received.

Of course we didn't get any when the second one was born as we and everyone who knows us knew we'd never see him so what was there to celebrate.

Trying to focus on Friday when we go to Florida and getting our new home just the way we want it when we return. I'm just so tired, feel as if I'm running on fumes now.