Making friends/ what is the best way?

If you make some friends and he makes some friends, then possibly (only possibly) you will be able to socialise with one of those friends and their other half. You might even be able to socialise with one of your friends, one of his friends, and both their other halves.

If you are very lucky you will be able to get together with a whole load of friends and their other halves.

But don't count on it.

Ask him whether his parents made all their friends as a couple from square one, or as one friend who then brought along a partner. People don't go friend-hunting in pairs.

Frankly, I think your husband is talking rubbish. Why is it easier for women to find friends than men? people are different. Some people (both sexes) could make friends and a social circle if dropped in an empty desert, others (both sexes), find making friends, even with people they share interests or work with very difficult.

Nor does how his parents made friends have any relevance to you. You are not clones of his parents but two entirely different people living in a different generation.

If he wants these couple friends, then it is up to him to get up go out and find them. Saying 'get us friends' as you might say 'get the grass cut' is ridiculous and needs to be treated with the contempt it deserves.

A really good couple friendship is very rare, either the men were friends or the women were friends and the other half just came along and liked it enough to continue.

I cant imagine what your DH expects when he comes home and says you are going to make couples into friends. Life would be very simple if we could still make instant friends like in kindergarten.

And when you go in a car together, Women in the back and men in the front? I suspect he finds his frienda not so interesting as your friends, but whether your friends want to bring along their better halves when all they want is to get out of the house and leave HIM at home.
You'll make friends but it takes time, sometimes couples meet up on holidays or on cruises.

I'm a bit confused ... you have to go out and get some friends?

I'm not sure that's how it works. Friends come from shared experiences or shares passions or just because you see something in someone you like .

To get good friends you have to be a good friend and I think that will take time.

Maybe you should just see how it goes in your new home - friends tend to appear where you least expect them.

I think it is good to have a mixture of friends- some you see as couples and some which are individual friends.

The best way to meet new people is to join a group together.Look out for ones in your area, bookgroups/U3A/history club/gardening club etc.

I am not clear whether he wants to make any friends at all! Maybe you should each pursue your own interests and make friends that way - and if you happen to share an interest then you would make mutual friends.