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Attraction.

(96 Posts)
Caretaker Mon 29-Aug-16 11:53:37

What attracted you to your partner.

sillup Tue 30-Aug-16 11:57:36

I have no idea but, whatever it was, it's still there 47 years later despite all the ups and downs.

Humbertbear Tue 30-Aug-16 11:53:07

I was on a blind date with someone else but I fell for DH.

He was the cleverest person I ever met (still)
His voice
A shared love of Bach and the Beatles
We are both middle children!

We moved in together after 5 months and that was 49 years ago.

starlily106 Tue 30-Aug-16 11:42:31

I walked past him in the street, and I knew that I would marry him. Months later I saw him in a club, we looked at each other and that was it. We started to see each other, were so happy and then found out he had a brain tumour which was caused by lung cancer. He was given 3 months to live. We were married in the house, and he lived for 16 months, and died 1 year and 8 days after our marriage. He died in Oct. 1986, and I still love him as much as I did then. We made every day together count.

inishowen Tue 30-Aug-16 11:29:34

The fact that he was so outgoing. I'm shy and love to be with chatty people. We met in a pub and he came over with a book and asked if it was mine. He knew it wasn't, it was his way of starting a conversation. He had the nicest blue eyes. Our children have inherited those blue eyes, so I did them a favour marrying him!!

JackyB Tue 30-Aug-16 11:28:05

I didn't think it mattered in those days. Perhaps I thought boys you fancied were for the flighty and definitely not for me. I was glad someone was interested in me so I tagged along. Since he shaved off his beard, and then moustache, I have lost all interest. Still together after nearly 40 years though.

Mrsdof Tue 30-Aug-16 11:27:03

Met my DH at a friends house when we were 13. We argued about football and I knew from that moment I would do my utmost to marry him. He said he felt the same and we married 6 yrs later. I had his name written all over my pencil case at school, he was considered to be very good looking and he was mine! We have loved, laughed and supported Spurs through 47yrs of marriage. Here's to the next 47 grin

DotMH1901 Tue 30-Aug-16 11:09:02

I knew my husband from school but we didn't go out together until we met up again when I was 18. He had the most lovely blue eyes and was always laughing (in fact it was hard to get him to be serious about anything for more than a couple of minutes). He had a beard and mustache (always had a thing for bearded men smile ) and he was always willing to help out.

Gagagran Tue 30-Aug-16 11:08:21

His lovely thick, shiny dark hair and appealing brown eyes! He's still got those eyes but the hair has mainly departed.

We met at a colleague of mine's 21st birthday party and he bought me a gin and bitter lemon which impressed me as we were all usually pretty skint.

51 years on we have weathered quite a few stormy interludes but we have a strong relationship. He is my rock.

Seasidenana Tue 30-Aug-16 11:05:52

Whatever it is was I wish I had ignored it and walked away. 30 years of my life wasted.

goose1964 Tue 30-Aug-16 11:03:26

nothing but I knew I was going to marry him

Mildred Tue 30-Aug-16 10:48:05

Lovely picture auntieflo

Auntieflo Tue 30-Aug-16 09:52:43

Lots of lovely wavy chestnut hair. I met him at a dance hall, and he walked me home. One thing led to another, see photo. Also there is more , quite a bit more, of me now, and he has lots less hair.

kittylester Tue 30-Aug-16 09:43:10

Hope you are ok, ga! flowers

grannyactivist Tue 30-Aug-16 08:49:34

Kitty - I just had a wakeful night; lots to think about at the moment.
Thanks for good wishes, we're feeling pretty pleased with ourselves today. smile

LullyDully Tue 30-Aug-16 08:10:51

I.just felt I had known him for.ever and come.home.( Plus the passion of course.)

kittylester Tue 30-Aug-16 07:15:29

Happy anniversary, ga! why are you up so early? flowers

grannyactivist Tue 30-Aug-16 03:27:20

I met my husband at church and he became my best friend, then romance, very unexpectedly, blossomed between us. He was the kindest person I'd ever met. He was mature beyond his years and not only was he a good listener, but he had the ability to befriend people from all walks of life and make them feel they mattered. He hasn't changed and he will always be The Wonderful Man to me.

We got married thirty years ago today when he was a boy of 23 and I was ten years older and already had three daughters. He has been an unfailingly kind husband and a wonderful father to our children, who adore him. I love him deeply and have a huge amount of respect for him.

ninathenana Tue 30-Aug-16 00:06:23

We met on holiday in Italy. He was with his cousin and I was with mates. He's good looking has a lovely smile and 43 yrs ago was a very fit rugby player wink wink

Coolgran65 Mon 29-Aug-16 23:31:26

I noticed his fabulous big brown eyes.
We met at a house party and he left at midnight to take his two teen sons home but came back. Little did I know his siblings made sure the only empty seat was on the sofa beside me awaiting his return. We chatted and he asked me to dance, and chatted more.
When I was ringing my son to come collect me he said he'd give me a lift home, we yarned until 4am.
We went to the cinema 4 nights later, and there were electric sparks. There still are.

I learned later than when he came back to the party hoping to chat to me that he should have been home getting some sleep as he started work that morning at 6am. So he stayed up all night, dropped me home and went straight to work.

We are together 19 years and I still love him to bits.

hulahoop Mon 29-Aug-16 20:39:33

Went out with him because I had a free night then found him easy to talk to didn't like beard though he shaved it off and six weeks after we met we got engaged still love him he as supported me through bad times been together over 40yrs hope we have many more ??

lefthanded Mon 29-Aug-16 20:25:32

We met at a party in 1966 - I was 15, she was a few months younger. I think I just liked the way she was completely overshadowed by her BFF, a buxom vivacious girl with sparking emerald eyes and flaming red hair. Every other male in the room was buzzing around the BFF, so I decided to chat to DW instead.

DW trained to be a teacher, while BFF trained to be a vet and went off to live in Aberdeen. They still exchange Christmas and birthday cards.

Cherrytree59 Mon 29-Aug-16 20:09:52

grin
Teetime bet he just loved your nurses uniform

Teetime Mon 29-Aug-16 19:32:34

His body he was unconcious and I had to take all his clothes off... a nurse has a hard life. He still has a great body!

Wobblybits Mon 29-Aug-16 16:50:39

As we met in a dance hall, and could not hear each other over the music, I guess the only initial attraction was physical, some sort of spark. Everything else came later, if it hadn't we would not still be together more than 50 years on.

Cherrytree59 Mon 29-Aug-16 16:45:00

His one eyebrow went up like Elvis
Love at first sight (on my part)
He was always singing
Still sings to me now
When I had turned green on a recent boating holiday he held me with one arm and sang to me whilst steering the boat over some very big swells.
It worked!