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What do I do now?

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Ana Tue 06-Sept-16 11:34:43

Oh dear. It sounds as though there is a lot more to this falling-out that goes back a long way.

Perhaps all you can do is be patient and hope your DD's attitude softens towards you in time. How do you get on with your DS?

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Peacelily Tue 06-Sept-16 11:28:44

She was left money in the Will, as was I. I have done what she asked me to do and given her and DS they money that was left to me.

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ninathenana Tue 06-Sept-16 11:28:33

It does sound as Ana says but if so she is being unreasonable.
You had no say in your x MiL will. Forgive me for asking is your D's father still around? If so maybe she'd be better taking his mum's will up with him.

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Ana Tue 06-Sept-16 11:09:18

Sounds as though it all hinges on your late MIL's will. Did your DD expect to be left something and was not? Does she now expect you to hand over what she considers to be her right? Would you be willing to do this?

Sorry if this isn't the reason for your estrangement, but it's the one that seems most obvious.

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Peacelily Tue 06-Sept-16 11:04:19

Hi. This is the first time I have posted, although I regularly read other posts & feel you are all a great support system.
I wondered if you could give me some advice on the situation I find myself with my DD. She is 40 & lives 1 1/2 hours away.
I thought we had a fairly good relationship, as up to March '15 she used to send me cheery & loving emails This all changed when my ex MIL's Will was read in mid March '15. I got on well with my ex MIL, but my DD totally disagreed with the Will. My DD sent me some very hurtful emails & refused to talk to me for several months. She even said she had been angry with me for well over 20 years when her Dad & I had split up. This was the first I had heard of this anger.
I have been trying to build bridges ever since, although she still won't talk it over with me.
We seemed to improve over the months & she occasionally emails me, although these are generally rather factual.
I phoned her a couple of weeks ago & asked her if "we were OK now". She said we were, so I asked her if I could come and stay for a few days. There was a long silence & she said she wasn't ready for that.
Sorry for the long post but where do I go from here?

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