how to please your husband

* wobbly* you sound very down this morning. I hope you and Mrs P feel better soon. Come virtual fishing with me! We'll sit in a boat on the res all day and put the world to rights. Might even catch one or two! XXxx.

Same here; mine isn't practical either, but he is always happy to have a go, and even though I can usually think of a way to do it better, the best way to please him is to keep my mouth shut and not to stand in his way. But really, the best way to please him is not to take him out of his comfort zone too often. He will bend over backward to do things that I want to do, but they are usually situations he would run a mile from. I am naturally sociable and he is not, but he does try - for me.

Our roles are reversed atm, I can't even get dressed by myself, but Mrs P is also poorly, so I feel real bad about the situation. Hate having to depend on someone else for basic things.

My husband isn't handy but once in awhile can find a way to help me. Most times we are clueless together!

I am quite independent but I know DH does like to do the "strong man", bless him. I have nothing against that, quite happy to be a weak woman when it suits me.

No- OH has always realised I am very independent and always respected (and I'd say perhaps admired) that. Including when I decided to go to Uni when our youngest started school, chose to go and study in Berlin and travel with friends. I'm afraid I'd hate to 'pretend' (same in the bedroom btw ;) ).

Yep, my DH is the same. This morning we had been tidying up in the garden and I was dragging the heavy green bin out. He rushed over and said 'why didn't you let me do that?' I replied that I was perfectly capable of doing it so no need. He replied that he knew I was capable but sometimes maybe I could pretend that I'm not !

I agree Tricia My DH is SO pleased when I ask him to help me with something. I am very much a coper (because I have had to be) so he is chuffed to bits when Iask him for help.

I think we have discovered before, TriciaF that our husbands are quite similar.

Though the way to his heart, first and foremost is the classic stomach!

But yes, my husband is the same or worse.
In my case though, a] I actually am quite hopeless so I do need him. But b] alarmingly, I came to realise after a few years that he is largely unwilling to teach me, so that I remain hopeless, so he can "rescue" me. Oh well.

Feeling wanted is pleasing.