my stepson has moved in with us for a few weeks until he finds his own place, after leaving his violent and abusive alcoholic fiancee, having had enough of her behaviour. We have been so supportive, and done everything we can to help him sort himself out. She is not even allowed to be alone with her three children apparently, so why he got together with her is a complete mystery, though she is quite nice when sober (we met her twice after their 8 week romance, each time she was only drinking tea, we had no idea what she had to hide). We have advised him to stay away from her, but if she went to AA (again) and this time it worked, and she could prove to herself as well as him that she was going to stop drinking, then maybe there was a chance that she was turning her life around and then he could envisage seeing her again (she is 15 years older than him, he is 33), but not for a few months at the least. The abuse that he took was awful, how he put up with it at all is beyond my comprehension. He has now gone back to her for a few days............. how supportive should we be? I am at a loss to know what to do, he has ignored everything we have advised - even he admits he is being stupid, but he 'cares' for her............ She is beyond helping in our view, her parents have given up on her after many years of support and caring for her children, her friends are fed up with her and she has none now, the social services despair of her - he is ruining his life......... so sad for my DH as he is his only son. Any ideas?
I've got another 'keen'... Ouch!