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Inviting elderly relatives to come and live near us.

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Humbertbear Sat 04-Mar-17 08:08:44

My mother moved to live very near us in sheltered housing. This meant we could include her in our lives but she also has the support of the staff where she lives e.g., we don't calls about failing boilers, light bulbs that need changing. Also, they take her shopping once a week. You need to think about how much you are able to take on since you say you both have busy careers. You also need to think about what would happen in the future if you were unable to help them with the cleaning or gardening.

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f77ms Sat 04-Mar-17 08:08:16

Sounds a sensible and caring idea to me . Could you not have a gardener and a cleaner with the extra money coming into your household ?

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nina1959 Sat 04-Mar-17 07:58:29

Would love to hear your thoughts. We have our last remaining family members, in their late 70's home alone, no real friends, various health issues, got no one and both scared of what will happen if anything happens to the other.

So, we love them, get on well, and we know they want to move up closer to us so that they're on the doorstep. But we both have busy careers so our concern is that if even if they move closer to us, it's only their environment that changes, not their actual lifestyle.

In answer to this, my husband boldly stated last night that the answer was to find a large enough property so that they could have one side and be totally independent, and we could have ours.

My first thought was, eeek, who's going to do all the cleaning and look after the garden??

But I can see his point and I know it would make our relatives feel much safer and happier. Hubby's dad died last year and he couldn't do a lot so I think this is his gesture towards helping auntie and uncle live out their lives in happier surroundings,

Any thoughts?

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