Baby name difficulty

That's why having a child when you are married is the best for everyone, including and especially for, the child.
She sounds like a piece of work.

This sounds like Tom and Kirsty meets Rob and Helen.

Her baby, her choice of name.
IF she wants to involve him in co-parenting then perhaps they should talk about it, but it doesn't sound promising does it.

What a mess! Not even born yet and poor baby is already caught in the middle! Hope it won't always be this way! Bloke should have used condoms.

Anyway, I like the nickname idea. Also, I think he should accept the mum's compromise and choose the middle name. Preferably something strong, solid and conventional or popular, so boy can use it, eventually, if he doesn't like his first name.

Well if his main concern was the child being teased with a horrid firstname, how does his later suggested compromise of having the child take his surname help with that? Sounds to me like it's not about the child's future wellbeing but all about point scoring.

Let her choose the name, she's the one who'll probably have most of the care and has to go through the birth and was the one to actually decide on having the child. As has been said he was obviously just the sperm donor and ultimately she does have control. He can always have a special pet name for the boy. Perhaps a nickname made from this horrible name.

I agree totally with Anya

If you know him I'd advise him to take her compromise.
As she is an unwed mother she legally has 100% control over the name.
At a later date he will be able to petition the courts to add his surname.
But as far as first and middle names go she doesn't actually have to let him chose.

Maybe his surname could be the baby's middle name?

I don`t think he need worry about the child being teased at school - there are so many weird names now, he won`t be the only child with one!

Oh goodness poor baby having parents like this, they seem as if they are so far apart ,what effect will this have on a child growing up when they cant even sit down and discuss a child name !!!

But it is his child and he has just been used as a sperm donor by a rather controlling and manipulative female. Cut the lad some slack.

He's been used. Led into this by his nose (or another part of his anatomy) and she will quite likely control his access to this child when it suits her.

This is a no win situation with baby caught in the middle

His first suggestion that she can choose from a list of names that he likes got him off to a bad start!

He's being a bit unreasonable to make an issue of things at this stage - be better to let things cool for now.

Got to work it out themselves nothing anyone else can do
Sounds as if he was just a sperm donor anyway he should have used birth control until the relationship was on a firm footing as you say a brief relationship
Sounds like the child's name is the very least of their problems
No sympathy sorry