I am very worried about my son. He is in his mid thirties . until 6 months ago he was a conscientious worker and family man. He was married with a 3 year daughter. Then suddenly he started to claim he did not love his wife. He began to behave strangely going out late at night and staying out late after work. When we tried to talk to him he cut off all contact with us for 2 months. It turned out he was having an affair with a girl 15 years younger who had recently joined the company. He then left his wife to move in with this girl about 3 months ago. He came to see me a few weeks ago it was a nice day so we just relaxed in the garden. Then he started to get texts and calls from the girl. I was shocked when he took a panic attack. When all settled down he told me that he has been diagnosed with anxiety and is on medication. He came round another day and after having a nice lunch the texts and calls started and again he became very anxious , sweating and rubbing his chest saying he had chest pains. I have spoken to his wife who is a lovely girl she told me that he left her with all the bills to pay and he does not make any contribution towards their daughter. He has unlimited access to the child but only sees her when girlfriend is working. A similar incident happened when he was visiting the child and this girl started to text and call because he had stayed longer than the time he had said. I have made a few enquiries from his friends who all tell he that he has cut off all contact with them, even his workmates. He does not talk to anyone in the workplace only his girlfriend. He was in line for a promotion to middle management however due to his recent behaviour and poor performance he is in danger of losing his job. Sorry for such a long post but I really don’t know how to help him. If I try to talk to him he will cut contact with me.
Estranged Son and Future Granddaughter
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