Are you married but living separately?

It does sound as though it could be a bit of a cesspit. You seem to have the ideal arrangement at the moment so why rock the boat? I would love to be in your position, best of both worlds!

Whatever floats your boat Wishing you every happiness however you decide to live your lives, sounds like you have the best of both worlds.

Wish i had a narrowboat[jealous]

Charles and Camilla regularly live in separate houses i believe, as does my daughter's in-laws. Just makes more expense thats all.

Thank you.

What I'm pondering is how we'd stand financially? eg: would being married but living in different homes affect our pensions,tax, etc. I fear we could fall into a cesspit of bureaucratic red tape, unwittingly confusing authorities by our having two addresses.

I know from experience that cohabiting can bring its own set of problems, but this is slightly different and potentially more confusing. I persoanlly don't know of anyone in a similar situation - eg: being married but choosing to live apart.

Another route would be to have a Humanist wedding. I did that once before and it was a wonderful ceremony, but it doesn't settle our feelings of wanting a full legal as well as loving responsibility to each other.

Something to mull over on a beautiful sunny day. - I'm off down to the boat to breakfast with old man river....

I am in a similiar situation, under "new partner in later life" we have known each other for about 12 months but recently got together as a couple, we met through our dogs really, while out walking,
I hope it works out well for you,
Having lived alone for a very long time, i am not sure i could live with anyone else, so i am happy at the moment anyway living seperately

I'm in similar circumstances Bohemian . My DH and I have maintained entirely separate homes for over 14 years, they're not even in the same county. We are perfectly amicable, get on well, spend time together as a family and are there for each other in time of need. We just don't want to live together. There have been no issues legally because we pay our own taxes and bills and we have our own bank accounts. At first, there were some raised eyebrows but, as DH says "there are a million ways of living a life; you just have to find one". And this way works very well indeed for us.

boheminan sounds perfect, if it works for both of you why shouldnt it continue. There is no legal reason why a couple shouldnt live in seperate abodes. I am sure there will be many Gnetters who will be a tad envious

I'm sorry that I don't but I wish you all the happiness in the world . If it's meant to happen it will.
I just hope for the same for my D some day.