Would you marry for money?

No, because heprobably wouldnt want a platoic relationship, and i could sleep with a man i didnt love,just for a omfortable life

Why wouldn't he? A wealth of experience lies beneath this craggy old face!

Why would a man want a gran - if he is wealthy there are planty of stunning looking eastern european/Russian girls young enough to be his grand daughter, ready to snap him up, and inherit when his heart or other parts give out!

Hello miss wren! I dont think it automatically follows that a man with money would be a selfish swine; your friend has just picked a dud out the 'tombola' of life, maybe?
For myself, I wouldn't put up with that kind of thing, money or not! My imaginary man who would be willing to let me share his good fortune would be a reasonable, pleasant type of chap, who made me laugh, enjoyed my (very) basic cooking skills, and was my friend.
Well, one can dream, eh?

Or as someone once said to me 'It buys you a better class of misery'

Hello,* MissAdventure* I am actually single and have that choice(no, not blowing my own trumpet) but the thought of being physical turns my stomach over yuk. I had a friend who did and said publicly is wasn't for love. Twenty years later she is still happily married and from the outside, it looks a nice lifestyle but I know she is his paid slave. He works from home and they only have short breaks away because he won't leave anyone else in charge of his business. There is no such thing as a 'free lunch'.

Would I marry simply for money...no. Would I marry a good man for money...yes!

If I were single again, theoretically, yes I would.

I have been wildly in love and poor, and although money can't buy you happiness, being poor can buy you a whole lot of misery, worry and fear.

I would definitely go for a comfortable lifestyle in future.

(Not that I would ever consider another relationship if and when I become single. More ruddy hassle than they're worth imho )

They are in rather short supply here.. I need the little I have left!

If the alternative was having to sell my hair and teeth, then yes, otherwise no.

I know that money does not always equate with happiness, but it certainly gives you the freedom to help your family in time of need, pay for medical treatment etc. etc. People often misquote "Money is the root of all evil" whereeas it is "The love of money is the root of all evil." Used wisely, not squandered, it can be a force of much good. Sadly a lot of Lottery winners never 'get' that and end up in a mess.

I would like to be able to make my daughters life easier, as she is ill. As it stands, she and I often struggle late into the night, lifting heavy things, almost killing ourselves and eachother at times. Cutting down trees, mowing the grass, climbing up into the loft and so on. I would like the opportunity to ease her heavy burden a bit, and money would at least take care of the practical side of things.

My own lifestyle is comfortable, in that I have absolutely no wish for fancy clothes or anything like that.
It wouldn't be those things which might tempt me as I have no interest whatsoever and never have had..

I once dated an extremely rich and lovely man - he had manners was courteous, had a beautiful house in the country in the style I adored........

I went out with him once to his home and he cooked me a beautiful dinner.

He asked to see me again, and asked and asked

and in the end I told him I could not go out with him because I was not comfortable about his wealth and I might be going out with him for the wrong reasons.

So, I now love a man, who has become extremely ill, and has dementia, and we rent a bungalow that we have trouble finding the rent for, we have no car, we go no where.....

was I right, was I wrong???

Only if Jonny Depp begged!

I don't feel it's that straightforward. People marry for all sorts of reasons. Lots of couples who aren't madly in love seem to manage! Compatible values & expectations go along way to making a marriage work, as do good nature and adaptability! If I was marrying for money, I'd also want to be sure he was generous!!

I guess it depends what makes you happy I have no need for money really apart from enough to live with basic things I don't yearn for Versace bags or designer dresses, as long as I ve got food in my belly, my free bus pass and enough in my purse to pay the bills and buy bits and pieces I m happy I wouldn't have any need or want for millions so it would never come into the equation ....and yes like many others answering I ve been shat on a number of times in love matches but that s just my tough luck, money. Wouldn't t take away that hurt

When Rupert Murdoch divorced Wendy Deng I started a thread to see if anyone would be interested in the ageing billionaire .... a few of us were tempted, just a little, but then commonsense prevailed and it was a resounding NO!

But that was Murdoch ... I'm sure someone else could persuade me

Ah yes, I see that could be a problem for some.

I agree MissAdventure that all those lovely and desirable things are possible without love (the obvious idea comes to mind with a gay man) but like jana and sparkly, I couldn't sleep with someone if there was no love involved.

I know some very nice men who just happen to be wealthy. Wealth does not always mean a person is nasty or has earned it by being mean to others. Think of the wealthy quaker families for example.
In fact, the more I think about it the more I think I would consider it (if the opportunity arose and DH didn't object!)

I agree JanaNana. I physically couldnt sleep with someone I didnt love, so its not a possibility.

Better to live alone, have nice friends, be happy and peaceful. That is priceless.

Does compatibility have to include love though?

I could never marry someone I wasn't compatible with; I'd rather be poor.

If I cared about them...don't have to be in love...just friends... Yes I would.... I haven't given up on finding someone...hahaha