Wills and Blended Families

I think that regardless of our relationship, who has more than the other, who has treated me better, to treat my children both the same. I loved them equally and regardless, want them to know that. My daughter doesn't want me, she has her reasons.

I think it is best to leave money equally to all your kids. I agree with Starlady that you could give monetary gifts ,if you can afford to, to the ones who will be less well off while you are still alive. Life is unfair. Some children are brighter and more capable and have greater earning capacity. However I feel if a DD was left out she could have lasting feelings of being rejected. Oh it is so hard being a parent!! Good luck with it!

I would talk to your DD about it. If she understands the reasons, and is able to have keepsakes, she may be quite happy with being left out.

Spend it until you are at a sum to care for your last years, enjoy your life.

Thank you for your replies. I feel much the same way but have to make sure that OH is on board which is more difficult. I fear if we don't sort this out, my daughter will get nothing if I go first!

Divide equally, but please try to spend it doing things that make you both happy.
I have always tried to be generous with all my family, some needing more help than others, but it's not a balance sheet, upon death, whatever is left, treat them the same. How others such as grandparents, treat your children is between them.

I would divide up inheritance equally. If you or DH think anyone has been/might be treated unfairly, you can "even things up" a bit by giving them some money while you're still alive. The others don't even have to know.

When we made our first wills, we were living in the UK, the children were small, and there was a clause that said if we should die within a month of each other xxxxx would happen. This allowed our wishes not to be cancelled out by the second death and also allowed us to stipulate who had guardianship of the children. Our present wills are made under European rules and inheritance is proscribed.

Same as Norah, all to be divided equally between all the children, his and mine.
You could make a will leaving your inheritance divided the way you like and he could make one which excludes your daughter, then it would be pot luck, whichever one of you dies first, leaving it up to fate. If you both died at the same time, isn't it that the youngest of the two of you whose will would stand.

Our estate, whatever remains after care etc, will be divide by the number of children and give equal portion to all, nobody suffers.

Spend it all yourselves!! -problem solved