Yes knspol ...I agree, reading the posts I often find problems I have and the advice given is helpful !
In my case, although my OH now has Parkinsons and vascular dementia (both not too bad yet !) he has always been the same for lack of communication ....which drives me mad ! Now, however, whether to do with these illnesses or not, he refuses to discuss ANYTHING ...even a simple 'what would you like for dinner' ...and after I have spent hours cooking it, he does not eat it ! My doc says ..ok, simply fill your freezer with ready cooked meals and if he doesn't eat anything, then don't cook ! easier said than done of course ! He has never been one for communication, and if I have tried to say 'can we talk about ....whatever' his answer is 'I am not listening to you ..you have nothing interesting to say'.....nice ! Last week was my 70th birthday ....no greeting, no card, obviously no present ....sad, and I was sad, but there you are ...that is him ! Another thing I have had to take over is all the responsibility for money in and out ...he asks to spend on something, I have to say no, we cannot afford it (it is usually something large and expensive) ...then he gets into a rage and accuses me of spending all the money ....I produce and print a list every month of every single thing we have to pay (bills, taxes, insurance etc etc, car expenses, petrol, food ...its all on there) I give him the list so he can see where the money is going ...'Don't want to look at that' he says ....but the worst thing is the aggression ...in fact, it is really LOVELY when he refuses to speak to me sometimes for as long as two days ! I look forward to those 2 days !! Often just want to up and leave ,,,but nowhere to go no money to do so, and doubtless I would feel guilty and anyone else would label me as heartless and selfish (they don't know what its like living with him !) ....we have only been married for 16 years ....his daughter tells me he was the same with his late wife who died just before he retired on the very weeked (she tells me) she had arranged to leave him and move in with her other daughter ! I WISH i had known this ....hindsight is a wonderful thing !!!! Sorry about the ramble ! it is good to know i am not alone !!