Seventeen years ago I was widowed, and palled up with a man also widowed whom I had know a long time. In our married lives we were tied by business so I guess in the early days of bereavement we leant on each other, as we knew each other.
As the years have gone by I have downsized and moved to within half a mile of him and we have enjoyed a close relationship to start with but now there are obvious differences in us appearing. He is mid seventies, I am late sixties and love travel, eating out etc. He is more a home bird, still in the family house, very full of golf and his own pastimes. He is constantly trying to tell me we are both oldies and should behave so. He gets down and is quite difficult sometimes.We have shared a lot of paying for outings, meals etc and he eats at my house in the evenings regularly and I pay for theatre tickets, days out etc.It seems because I don’t agree with a lot of what he says and will not conform to be a clone of his first wife he is now saying all the things we do we should split 50/50. In a way he is trying to say if you don’t agree with me and conform to him I have to pay half of everything we do. He seems to keep a mental tag of who’s spent what. In my mind it’s roundabouts and swings, in the past he has enjoyed lots of lovely times at the expense of me and my family. Am I wrong to feel hurt, I am obviously going to pay my way( we are both comfortably off) so my pride doesn’t get hurt but I do wonder what other people do in these relationships ? It’s very much a brother sister set up.
Alphabetical girls and boys names January 2024
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