Grannie envy

Been there, done that & got the T shirt!! I totally empathise with your situation, having posted a similar message on tbis site months ago. Happily the situation couldn’t be more different now. I feel much more appreciated and in demand as a busy Granny of 3 under 2 yr olds despite living over 150 miles from them all. Time changes everything, be patient, keep in touch regularly with all family members and try to link with the other GPs. Ours live in France and we even get invited to stay over with them- adults only! That’s progress! Good luck & keep smiling.

I have a similar problem as I only see my granddaughter a few times a year for a couple of hours whereas my DiL's mother goes and stays frequently and they visit my DiL's father more often. My son tries to even it up but it is difficult for him. I have just decided that although I don't see her very often - when I do I am the fun granny, the one who plays with her and never chastises or attempts the day to day tasks. Grandchildren love you for who you are not how often they see you. My favourite uncle was the one I saw rarely!!

I think it’s difficult to advise here without knowing the history of your relationship with your daughter and her husband. I have always encouraged my 3 to be able to be open and voice issues without deteriorating to arguments. Could you just ask if your grandchildren could come to you one weekend ? It’s a good idea to befriend the other grandparents too. Try to establish if they do have issues with you for some unknown reason.

Good idea Friday..building on that, what about arranging a time when you can invite them all to yours and other grandparents to start integrating with them.

I know it's hard, but try and enjoy whatever time you get with your grandchild. Keep on smiling and being so nice that nobody can say a bad word about you!

Try to relax and enjoy your grandchildren. I agree with suzied . Life is too short to miss out on the time you do have with them. Good idea Friday you are a blended family now so make friends

Make friends with your co-grandparents.

Don’t see it as a competition as to who can see them the most. You obviously do have contact with your GC , so why not enjoy the times that you do see them, and not anguish about how frequently the other GPs see them?