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Christinefrance Wed 03-Jan-18 15:43:31

Love that eazybee , times gone by were not all bad.

eazybee Wed 03-Jan-18 12:43:07

Instead of getting on with work I was reading an ancient booklet that I think belonged to my Grandmother:
'Gems of Thought ' from the Zionist Chapel, Manchester 1907. Mrs. Gregory from Hulme contributed:
" Speak gently to the aged one,
Grieve not the careworn heart,
The sands of time are nearly run;
Let such in peace depart."
Doesn't seem to be happening nowadays, but would we want it to?

Starlady Wed 03-Jan-18 11:43:27

But this decision was based on an agreement the son signed, himself, as an adult. So I don't see where it has anything to do with "culture."

Greyduster Wed 03-Jan-18 11:43:16

That is like student debt writ large! I can’t imagine why they were foolish enough to enter into such a contract in the first place.

Bibbity Wed 03-Jan-18 11:43:13

Well parents make a conscious decision to create children. That comes with the known responsibility of housing, feeding and caring for the child.
Children do not ask to be born and certainly do not owe their parents of rights carrying out their legal obligation.

It is also obvious that we are all going to age. That makes it all our own personal responsibility to make provisions for when we can no longer work. It isn't the responsibly of our children who already have to work, pay their bills, maintain their own relationships and raise their children. And hopefully in amongst all that actually get to do things just for them that they enjoy.

mollie Wed 03-Jan-18 11:29:39

Court orders dentist to pay his own mother for raising him

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/jan/03/court-orders-dentist-to-pay-mother-for-raising-him?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Copy_to_clipboard

I'm not sure what to think about this but it is interesting how some cultures see it as a responsibility to care about family. Here, it seems to me, once we are adults we are off the hook as far as caring for family goes.