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When is a marriage over

(56 Posts)
theresacoo Fri 20-Apr-18 09:34:14

Perhaps he’s abit depressed if he watches tv all day. Could be after retirement.
He needs goals and then in turn it might spark something.
Have you tried doing things together or talking to him about it?
I would want to make sure I tried everything before I left him. Good luck

NannyJan53 Thu 19-Apr-18 10:33:24

Life is too short to live like that.

As other have said, a serious discussion is needed!

Situpstraight Mon 16-Apr-18 16:57:19

It is sad, but maybe if you could get him off of the sofa and get out and about you might find that you have more in common and can start to be friends again, after that who knows?

But not talking to him and turning these thoughts over in your mind won’t improve the situation, TBH I think that if the marriage was over finding somewhere else to live wouldn’t stop you from leaving, would it?

Take Taniths advice, sit down and have an honest discussion about what you both want, maybe he is as bored and fed up as you are?

Nanabilly Mon 16-Apr-18 16:54:35

By the sounds of it I think it could be time to move on . If you want to try to rebuild the relationship then you really do need to have a serious talk with your husband and see how he feels ,he might feel the same and If so it will be easier If you both want to go your seperate ways.
If you don't want to try to rebuild it then you need to start making plans . Accept that these things happen and sort out your finances .

tanith Mon 16-Apr-18 16:47:20

That’s quite sad but if you are sure that your marriage Is over for you then you need to have a frank discussion with your husband before you make any decisions . Good luck

Vauxhall58 Mon 16-Apr-18 16:44:20

I’ve been with my Husband now nearly twenty years I don’t think I love him I did it’s just died . He’s retired now doesn’t want to do much except watch sport on tv . He expects me to work full time do the shopping wash up dry up and much of everything else I’m bored I’m fed up there’s no sex none for 6 years I’m not interested he doesn’t turn me On anymore
But then again it’s not easy finding somewhere else to live .
Anybody have any ideas no horrible remarks please