Are there certain groups of people you may choose to avoid?

Re weight remarks: I've had the opposite from MIL. I've been struggling with weight issues for many years, and still feel very self-conscious about my body despite now having lost 1 st (it's a start) and my legs (I have lymphodema). MIL finds it impossible NOT to comment on my weight or anyone else's for that matter. It's very wearing.

In other words................ this thread has no ending!!!
But yes,in most instances I have to agree.

People that tell you the whole plot of a book they are reading or a film they have seen; or even their dreams in great detail.

People who don’t listen, just want to talk about themselves and their family.

I also hate meanness, especially from people who are well off enough not to be.

Sunnysusie completely agree!

Agus, I do so agree with you. I'm 4' 11 or 152, i.e. size age 12-13 and well retired. People say to me, 'you're so lucky to be slim. All my life I have not wished to look like a small walking mushroom, and also want to stay mobile, so have worked on it. It's not luck, it's being careful. Only you and me obviously!

Oh YES -sheilasue people who talk down to me or call me 'darlin' or 'young lady' (I'm 64)...
People who talk incessantly about their own lives and children and don't seem interested in anyone else's lives
People who assume that everyone likes dogs/golf/fast cars
People who precede rudeness with: 'I'm not being funny, but....'

People who are chatting to you at a party or gathering whilst continually scanning the room to see if there is anyone more interesting for them to talk to. Not too keen on people who brush dandruff off your suit whilst loudly remarking upon it in front of the World's press either.

Racists - both the overt 'They come 'ere and take our jobs' types and 'Some of my best friends are negroes/Indians/ ' whatever.
Braggers: whether intellectual or social snobbery. MIL goes on and on about my nephew, her grandson, who has got into Cambridge, and his younger sister who is going to try for it. FFS.
Self-righteous people
People who lack compassion and empathy
People who pull rank

The list goes on.....

Yes a lot of people, rascist, know it alls and snobs.
My gd is mix culture and I get very angry when she is called half cast, I will tell people not to say that so rude.
Can’t stand offsted inspectors or any school inspectors so snobbish and think they know it all.
Hate it when people talk down to me.

Gummybears, why are you friends with Mr Porsche?

I can see I'll need to be very careful to avoid these pitfalls myself.
I also avoid same age groups if possible. They remind me of being back at school when you were clumped together in year groups and being friends with girls in the year above or below was frowned on. And yes it was all girls back then.
However it's hard going because I'm just not as interested in the same things as I once was.
I know one woman who can clear a room as she tells her life story again and again.
I hope I can tell the difference between a short anecdote and a boring monologue boasting about my past!

My son is renowned for going off on rants if someone questions his beliefs/ideas/way of life etc etc. I used to argue the point with him (he is living proof of there is nothing like a reformed sinner ) as he passes judgement on others for things he has done himself in the past. Lately I have read his Facebook ~rants~ posts and thought- should I answer? Mostly I don't bother - not worth the hassle anymore! When he talks about my grandchildren or d-i-l then I do reply to those, even if only with a smile!

People who sit and ignore the bill when presented in a restaurant waiting for someone else to pay and when they do they make some very half hearted comment about how they were going to pay.

Miserable people who find no joy in anything. (I don’t mean depressed people,) I mean those who suck the life out of a room by being so negative about every single thing or who find fault with something for the sake of it.

Yes Agus, I do agree with you. My mother was 5'10" and very slim, her sisters and even aquaintances , didn't hesitate to remark upon her weight using the various remarks of the kind that you mention. My son has the same problem, but you try passing a remark about some one who is overweight.....

Three, the friends I spoke of are all well off enough to well afford it, which is why it narks me. Quibbling about whether someone else had a coffee and then getting into your Porsche is the mark of an a**ehole (and yes, the last time this happened to me, that was the exact scenario, and it was the friend between jobs whose coffee offended Mr Porsche)

Blue, pretty much all the fast casual restaurants do tipping out amongst all the staff now, so the cooks are getting a chunk of the waitstaff’s tips at the end of the shift. Again, Mr Porsche is notorious for not stumping up a couple of quid on a sizeable bill...

I should add that long long ago when we were students, Mr Porsche and I went out to lunch after class. I had a pizza and he had lobster and oysters. He then theatrically announced he had “forgotten his wallet” and I paid up with a certain edge in my smile.

Next time he suggested lunch, I suggested McDonalds

jane10 yes they do, usually under the disguise of a chat about ISA s, or something
ie. oh well I have x thousand premium bonds, then of course we have our Isas, then I have had to pay x thousand in Taxes and our cruises this year have cost x and so it goes on and on, then they all chip in with how much tax they are paying.

Jane10.........................People will always surprise you please believe me, and as you go through life you learn that there are so many areas best avoided........ if you wish to live a nice simple life!!

Do people actually tell others how much money they have? I've never met anyone who would even dream of doing that.
I'm wary of people with a chip on their shoulder...

People who tell me how much money they have and how much everything has cost them. Sorry, I’m not impressed.

People who want to chat, then don’t stop talking and never ask me how I am, yet I now know all about the minutest areas of their lives. Then tell me what a good listener I am!

TBH I’m not a people person.

I avoid people who talk all the time . Endless non- stop chatter and rambling rubbish about themselves usually , or topics of no interest to anyone but themselves . What is wrong with silence !

I also swerve smokers whenever possible .

People who talk too loudly. Queue jumpers. Small minded people with all that that implies.

People who drone on about golf/curling/horses/bridge. Delete as required!

I avoid my MIL. She is in her 90s but is a chain smoker, racist, talks about herself and people I don’t know constantly, is a complete snob and makes her dislike of me and mine clear! I would avoid anyone with any of those characteristics not just her!