Unexpected and scary

Who on earth would wear undies that have seen better days on any date let alone if hoping for some action? You say you're a young 65 and yet you say your wardrobe is out of date, it's not a blind date, you've dated before so he has an idea of your style. Stop putting pressure on yourself, relax and wear what looks and feels good even if he's seen it before, and if you do have dodgy undies best you get them sorted and feel comfortable before you take the next step. There is no need to rush, take your time, feel prepared and enjoy it.

On the wardrobe issue: concentrate on some nice new undies, so that if you do want the weekend away not to be single bedrooms all the way, you don't have to worry about undies that have seen better days!

How out of date, is out of date? Wear something you feel comfortable in and feel suits you. Take a light jacket or a sweater with you for cooler evenings

Honestly, most men never notice what we have on.

On balance, supper at home has the majority with me seducing him as Mrs JJ said, which then removes the separate room issue and as some have said "its not until you are on holiday with someone that you really get to know them".

Thank you so much ladies you are a lovely lot, do give me any more tips you might have, do PM if you think it's needed. So next problem, my wardrobe is out of date.

Weekend away for sure. You know his background and have known him for a while so I’d have a little word with him before it’s booked about sleeping arrangements. Don’t forget he may be a tad concerned to.Dont over think it you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do,but I’m sure being away from familiar surroundings and relaxed in this lovely weather you will have a lovely time and what will be will be.

Well you know and like him so why not go for the weekend away? Nothing to lose!

How lovely. Can I just say that if he is the right one he will be more than willing to be patient. If he is not willing to wait until you are comfortable and ready he is not the right man. I understand the neutral territory. Has he actually asked you to share a room or are you just presuming?

I think the fact that you know him and know his background is a really positive thing. If it were me, I think I'd invite him round for a meal and see where that led to.....

If you prefer, have the meal and then start a conversation explaining that you have a few worries.

Maybe he's nervous too. I think it quite possible that he is a bit worried as well.

STD's are defiantly the rise in over 50's
GrannyGravy13;

What about the over 90s?

Good Health and Keep Safe
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Be honest with him about your fears. I am sure he is equally hesitant. DH and I have been happily married for 13vyears now. The beginning much like you. We had progressed to a cuddle on the sofa when he suggested a weekend away in a nice hotel so we agreed a date in a couple of weeks time. A few days later he came to supper and without any planning I said 'Are you going home tonight or do you want to stay?' The rest is history! He always says I seduced him and he found that very sexy! He has since admitted he was petrified at the time. Talking honestly is the key - and listening to each other. Have a happy time

If you can't talk openly about the prospect of sex with this new bloke then it doesn't sound if you are ready for it!!!

Enjoy your weekend away, pack your own condoms!!
STD's are defiantly the rise in over 50's

You lucky lady, I was widowed 5 years ago, I'm 62 now & have been on my own ever since DH died so I understand how you feel. As you already knew him & his background & have had a few dates I would go for the weekend away but insist on separate rooms & just see how it goes, I think neutral territory is the way to go. Good luck & do talk to him if you feel nervous.

Diana54.Having enjoyed dates and now a dance with this man ,that awakened your feelings, is no indication an invitation for a weekend away 'all inclusive ' if you get what I mean ? would leave you begging for more.
Or spoiling what has in the words of the immortal Carpenters 'only just begun' by insisting on single rooms .
He too, like yourself, may not be as confident as you think he might be so why not take it one step at a time. My suggestion is to start on home ground and is there any reason you could not invite him to your place for an intimate evening meal with nice wines, candlelight and soft music in the background then take it from there.? Hopefully with this' no rush atmosphere' you will have the opportunity to get to know this man just that little bit more than a few dates and a dance has provided you with .Good Luck.

I've discussed this with my DH Diana and we both think you should do both.

Whether or not you want to take things further after the meal is your own business but over the course of the long weekend you might notice things in his behaviour that you didn't notice before, for example, what he's like first thing on a morning? how clean he is?

They say you don't really know someone until you live with them so a long weekend is a bit of a taster.

I do think you should have a back up plan to get back home incase it all goes abysmally wrong.

Stay safe and good luck XX

Go for the weekend away, a lovely say out, dinner, a drink and you will be totally relaxed not worrying about what the neighbours will think or the dust on table. Enjoy

Life's too short! Sieze the moment. Enjoy a special weekend away.....why so much concentration on the bed part? Who knows.....he may have his own issues in the department and be looking forward to simply sharing an affectionate and fun weekend with someone whose company he enjoys.

It sounds like you’re ready for love.

Go for it and good luck.

I wonder if the reason he has suggested a weekend away because it is neutral territory. I am not sure if his house is where he lived with his late wife and your home is where you lived with your late husband and maybe he thinks that he does not want to do anything in either of those places and sees a weekend away as being a place just for you and him.
It would be best to discuss your worries about intimacy, he may have worries too.
Whatever happens I wish you and him all the very best for a great weekend.

Arrange separate rooms and a means to return home alone if necessary. You need to stay in control of the situation.

Remember STDs are on the rise fastest in the over 50s.

I’m sorry, it’s not pleasant to bring up but please be safe!!

I agree with Grannyknot - have the meal in at home and if things go well, enjoy the weekend break. If you enjoy his company and he's genuine, you can show one another how you feel, but don't feel pressurised into anything you aren't comfortable with. Do hope it goes really well, and keep us posted!

Yes, stick to a 'home' date. Good luck - hope it all turns out well for you.

Relax, go with the flow and remember you can back out at any stage just explaining that you are not ready. Why not chat beforehand and let him know your slight anxiety, that way he will fully understand. Good luck ....

Go for it, life is short

Be honest with him. Ask him over for a meal and talk to him. Tell him he is first man you have dated since death of dh. Tell him you enjoy his company but want to take things slowly. Agree to weekend away and insist on single rooms and see how you feel once away from home. Don't be rushed into anything.