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Jette Fri 27-Jul-18 16:22:43

How would you take it if a man you were with gently caressed your face?

sarahellenwhitney Sat 28-Jul-18 13:37:01

Just that nothing else ?No conversation ?Weird.

GabriellaG Sat 28-Jul-18 12:37:48

You don't know where his hand has been, anyway, the OP saying that maybe he wanted to touch her soft skin, says it all about her opinion of herself.
I wouldn't give the question any more credence.

GabriellaG Sat 28-Jul-18 12:34:12

Wind up? grin

Nanny41 Sat 28-Jul-18 12:03:38

Awkward I would say,if you dont really know the person.

dragonfly46 Sat 28-Jul-18 12:00:52

A definite no no - I am very protective of my personal space. I even hate all this kissing that acquaintances think is acceptable!

David1968 Sat 28-Jul-18 11:53:31

I'm with sandelf. This appears to be inappropriate behaviour. (Was it in a workplace?) A clearer context is needed from the OP.

Mary59nana Sat 28-Jul-18 11:43:37

You lovely ladies make me smile everyday now I’m laughing ...

sandelf Sat 28-Jul-18 11:36:12

Reminds me of creep Trump - see how well he dominates with what look like 'friendly' 'helpful' touching, guiding etc. Absolute no no. Friends husband tried a bit of this. Never got within yards of him ever again.

Margs Sat 28-Jul-18 11:34:14

If the man was not known terribly well by moi then I'd be tempted to give him the Mrs Thatcher Handbagging Treatment.

If he was my husband (or the ex) he'd definitely be getting the Mrs Thatcher Handbagging Treatment!!!

Diana54 Sat 28-Jul-18 11:26:14

Stroking a strangers face is really creepy whatever the intentions are I am having visions of Count Dracula caressing the face of one of his victims.
In an intimate situation it's perfectly OK otherwise really weird

amber22 Sat 28-Jul-18 11:21:28

it's a really humiliating thing to do, the only possibly acceptable context would be doing it to a small child who'd been naughty, probably during or after telling him/her how annoying the naughty behavior had been.

GrannyGravy13 Sat 28-Jul-18 11:21:02

Run!!!

MissAdventure Sat 28-Jul-18 11:10:51

I don't really allow anyone to touch me anywhere without permission.
If I sense some kind of hug is about to happen, I make myself scarce.

lizzypopbottle Sat 28-Jul-18 11:03:35

Touching someone's face is a proprietorial gesture. I dislike it.

paddyann Sat 28-Jul-18 11:00:15

I wouldn't get close enough for anyone to do this to me.I like to keep my space.We have a friend who talks to you from inches away...I always move back from him as I really feel uncomfortable being that close to people

Rocknroll5me Sat 28-Jul-18 10:55:35

I would find it entirely inappropriate. Strangers don't get to touch your face. Unless a dentist or doctor and they are in role.

ajanela Sat 28-Jul-18 10:52:00

Yes I wondered if he was from a different culture. Some cultures are very much more touchy, freely and yes I expect he wanted to feel your skin especially if you are white and blonde,

grandtanteJE65 Sat 28-Jul-18 10:51:58

I would have asked any man who I am not on intimate terms with, which means every man except my DH, to keep his hands to himself.

In a professional situation, I would also have pointed out to this person that he was perilously close to overstepping the bounds of professional propriety and that any re-occurrence would lead to my complaining to the relevant authority who employs him.

Jalima1108 Sat 28-Jul-18 10:41:06

It depends on the definition of the word with in this context.

Greciangirl Sat 28-Jul-18 10:37:18

I think I would be flattered if I liked him.

Chewbacca Sat 28-Jul-18 10:33:49

OP hasn't been back so we're non the wiser are we?

GabriellaG Sat 28-Jul-18 10:29:32

Soft, describes a touch, not something you see.
Was 'the man from a different culture', different to Brits, or are you Jette? There are many women of many cultures whose skin is soft.
IMO, depending on your and his ages, he was either trying for a pass or has no manners. There are some cultures where touching a woman you don't know in that manner would be really frowned on. That said, there are always men who step outside their cultural boundaries.
Ages?

sandelf Sat 28-Jul-18 10:28:47

My reaction - Oh God no! What on earth are you doing? Don't ever think of attempting that again.

BlueBelle Sat 28-Jul-18 10:27:48

Oh for Goodness sake narrowboatman you re in a different century we live in a racially diverse country we are not living in a country or century where no one has seen a white wonan before..... pleeeeze
A black professional guy would in my opinion never do that they have to be one step behind what anyone else might do as they can be accused so easily
It all sounds very strange and as Jette has never seen him since it’s all really totally irrelevant whether it was sexual, hopefull or just dusting an small fly off her face

Ellie Anne Sat 28-Jul-18 10:11:27

Wouldn’t like it at all.