OH objects to my smartphone

I typed 1 x 'not' and meant to type 1 x 'not'.

Baggs

Texting? Whatsapp.

Gabriella, I can't conceive of a situation where having one disadvantages you. Or did you actually mean to say that in the first place and typed to many "not"s?

I can't possibly conceive of any situation where not having a mobile phone when out and about disadvantages you, in a difficult situation.
Get a life. Rely on brain power and the power of speech. Gordon Bennett!

I love my smartphone, I love Youtube and especially I LOVE Facebook. Some friends declare "Facebook is a waste of time" but it has enriched my life in so many ways so I disagree. BUT I never watch TV except for the news, I consider that to be a waste of MY time.

I love my smartphone I love Youtube, I love Facebook. One or two friends comment that "Facebook is a waste of time". I SO disagree it has enriched my life in so many ways. BUT I personally never watch TV except the news. I consider TV a waste of MY time so we are all different.

Ask him to right down a list of rules and regulations for you, tongue in cheek of course ! What makes some men think they can dictate what their wives do ?

Some people have just decided to take an attitude about mobile phones. I find the same applies to credit cards. I pay mine off every month, which makes it pretty much like a debit card and obviously I therefore pay no interest and accumulate no debt. But every year I can afford to buy something large like a new TV from the points I have accumulated from using it!! I use it for every tiny purchase including food.

If DH doesn't like smart phones, he may accept a more basic mobile phone that can only do phone calls, with no smartphone features. These are still available, presumably for people who are technophobic.

Give your husband your current phone and buy yourself a new one. It worked a treat except now he is on his phone more than I am on mine!

He isn't a needy child what a selfish attitude to have you should be able to please yourself how you spend your time in the evening it sounds like he does

Offer to make an appointment for him to attend your local library for a two-hour session with a Computer Buddy.

He then may not have a fear of computers so you and he can share the value of being connected.

My dh bought me an iPad for my 70th he moans that I am always on it. I am not I give myself certain times in the day to go in and catch up with things and yes he does ask me too to look up things.
He likes to look on Rightmove. ?

Go to another room when using the phone.

grandtante has a point. OP said her phone was on silent. She didn't say she was on silent. Talking on a phone in the same room someone is watching a TV programme is rude so I hope that's not what was happening. If it was happening then I don't blame the OH for what he said at all.

Perhaps the OP will clear that up for us.

Im amazed at some of the reactions to this post. I get on very well with my H most of thectime but he too objects to me 'wasting time' on my ohone and I have to admit he does have a point. He doesnt have one and thinks Im addicted and to be honest I do spend a lot of time on it.
Admittedly it's a bit different if he is watching a film or reading a book and I do say Im not ignoring you any more than you are ignoring me which he concedes. But he thinks Im doing trivial things like playing games or using social media which he does not approve of!
However I wouldn't class it as grounds for divorce -just a minor disagreement!

Fennel - Sandra, change over

Sandra - it's the opposite with us. I hate the things and he keeps insisting I need to use one. Why? We managed before.
OTOH I couldn't do without my 'puter.
Also I'm obsessed with with ww2 and he isn't.

You do know that lots of smartphones are compatible with the tv......and you can change channels or even turn the b****y thing off

If you were texting then your OH is out of line, but if you were talking on the phone while he was watching TV I do understand his irritation. If that was the case, could you not sit in another room?

War films drive me batty too, so if DH wants to watch one I go somewhere else in the house. But perhaps you only have one sitting room?

Ask him to wear headphones when he's watching a film you don't want to watch, then it won't disturb what you, quietly, want to do on your phone.

He's the one with the noisy gadget, not you. Perhaps point that out to him. TVs are much more intrusive than smart phones.

Sandra, I would suggest you have a chat with him about how the two of you spend your time and see if you can come to some sort of compromise.

If he is interested in War films, that fine ,but you dont need to tag along. You can go in another room or go out?

My OH could object all he likes (which he never would) it would get him nowhere its my choice what I use and when the same as when he uses his smartphone I would never object,we are not joined at the hip,by the way if my OH wants to watch football etc he will remove himself to the TV in the bedroom and I watch the lounge TV.

Well, I can sort of see his point.
People on phones often seem to go off into a totally different dimension; completely oblivious to their surroundings..
Maybe he is like that with watching films though.

What exactly is it he objects to? Would it be OK if you sat there reading, or knitting?

He is not a child, why on earth does he need you devotedly sitting at his feet looking at him adoringly, while he takes no notice of you as he watches his program. Does he throw you doggiechocs as well?

If I am not interested in a program DH is watching I go somewhere else in the house and do something different (and vice versa, if he is not interested in something I am watching).

In fact we are often in the house together but in different parts doing different things. We even both have our own cars so that we can have independent lives. We have just genuinely celebrated 50 years of marriage so being independent isn't a sign of a failing marriage.

Any man who expected me to give them my full undivided attention all the time they were not working wouldn't have got past the second date - and several didn't.