OH objects to my smartphone

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There are times when I read these posts about selfish or thoughtless mates that I realise there’s a reason I m alone ???

I rem when I first acquired my own computer.. it was in the spare bedroom, so....when the news came on (normally about 3 times a day) I would go upstairs and play on computer(was one of those BIG monitors and separate keyboard, you rem the ones) OH seems to get jealous I was up there and not sat with him watching the news.
He would say to people ohhh she 's up there with Mr Computer! lol.

He was same when I got a mobile, I used to have to txt in secret and on silent a it seem to irritate him if it was pinging! but I put it down to him beeing pretty poorly and just couldn't stand things pinging etc think if their not involved in everything then they can perform "sulks" when needed.

Oh minor irritations like that disappeared when the OH slung his hook.

Agree with previous posters.

Perhaps you should go and sit in another room and see what he says.

Sorry, but I'm bewildered by his attitude. So you use a device, quietly and unobtrusively, while he watches his choice of TV (which I'm guessing he knows is not your choice). What exactly is he objecting to?

Like muffin, this is a genuine question - I'm struggling to think of a possible reason to object.

I was chortling to myself interested to read he experiences difficulties when out alone due to his refusal to have a phone.

I was sitting on the settee last night and he was in the armchair at the side whilst watching his film. He wasn't speaking to me at any time, so I wasn't ignoring him. Will have to try the tv in the bin threat next time.

Use the smartphone to Google divorce lawyers.

Um I think he needs to be quiet before you complain that you would like to throw the TV in the bin rather than watch yet another film you are not interested in!! And maybe the phone battery could be flat when he wants to check football scores! If you want a smart phone, if he doesn't want one that's his business! If you were on it in the middle of a conversation there might be some validity in his comment but otherwise ...!!!!!

So he’s happily watching a film you have no interest in, and he objects to you silently entertaining yourself?

Forgive me if this comes across rudely, but what exactly is his problem?

You have every right not to be made to sit through a film or similar entertainment in which you have no interest. You were making no noise or suchlike that could have disturbed his viewing. I assume you were not in the cinema and therefore the screen glow was not an issue.

Genuinely, what is his complaint?

I’d threaten to ram it up his .....

I use a smart phone but not when I am with somebody, I have several friends that when using their phones,not making calls, seem to lose the ability to hear. I do not see your OHs problem if he was watching TV unless he had been speaking to you and you were not responding.

My OH used to object to my use of a tablet, saying it was a time waster. That was, until he got a Kindle fire for Christmas. He now sees what a useful thing it is. He does online banking, unheard of before! Listens to audio books, Google's any amount of stuff.
He doesn't say anything to me about mine now.

Tell him to take a hike!

Sandra MrA only stopped objecting to my smartphone when he got one himself.
You will just have to work out a cunning plan to make him think he needs one too. Presumably he has a mobile of some sort?