Hi All,
I wonder if anyone has had a similar experience to me... have convinced myself that this is normal, but am willing to be convinced otherwise or to see this from another perspective.
MY DS and DDL DG are a lovely family, not without their own problems and I love them all dearly, but fear I may be interfering in their lives a bit. It culminated last night on the phone when I was telling my DS what to do after a week of making comments about small things that cropped up in conversation about what he should be doing.
As I write that I know I should butt out and let them get on with it, BUT I have this overriding sense of responsibility that tells me if I don't tell them that I will feel responsible if something goes wrong, as I could see what was happening and can stop it by telling them.
I think I am a rational woman, yet I cannot help myself. my DS and I had a discussion about this last night and I ended up in tears hating myself for the words that leave my mouth sometimes ( I do tend to be hard on myself). I need to get away from all this and leave them to it I know, yet they are always asking me to help out and I can never say no...MY DS and I discussed this openly last night and I apologised, and said I knew how he felt as my own Mother had been like this with me.
The more I try to stop this behavior the more I do it, and end up feeling like I should run away.... I have other interests such as a full time job, singing in a choir and go to a gym with a full social circle too, I am also a bit of a control freak...so any tips on how to apply a filter to my brain?
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