Not another one!

Nobody knows what really happened with the marriage of Heather and Paul McCartney, you only have the version the press gave you and everybody knows how unbiased they are. No doubt many of the tales about gold diggers have been read in the press too or from the so called injured parties.
Please do tell us more of your wonderful examples...it is so illuminating, especially about the author.

I think you need to get out more.

The rest of you keep coming back I've got a few more tales about golddiggers, these are about women who have preyed on elderly folk, they are true tales.
There are of course men that do this but I just don't have any first hand accounts.

Chewbacca, you don't read, all this happens, are you saying that Heather didn't not take Paul McCartney for £25M. All for the child's welfare of course, yea, yea. It's women like that that give women a bad name.
Did you not know that in the 19th century it could not happen because married women had no rights to anything.
If you are going to try to put me down at least be credible

If he had decided he didn't want me I would sit tight in the house and take what I could, keeping the children as a priority, but it wouldn't be up to me the court would say what I had. I would be angry and emotional because I dont like loosing control of events and that's just what's happened

It's like reading a novel from the 19th century, reading Diana54's posts. Almost as though a whole century has bypassed her. Wouldn't mind betting she doesn't agree with women having the right to vote; her views are so archaic.

What do you think would, or should, have happened to you if your husband had chosen his mistress and told you to get out when you discovered his affair?

Jalima no because she probably hasn't contributed any capital or work to the business if she had the court would give her credit for it. Turning that round if she worked and contributed or contributed capital to a business or a house she would get credit for it.
But not for "keeping the home fires burning" if a couple lived in a rented house any maintenence would be related to how much he or she could afford to pay. That's why Heather McCartney walked off with £25M after a couple of years, nice work if you can get it.

So, if a wife/partner "kept the home fire burning", cared for the children of the partnership, did everything to ensure that the male of the partnership could give his undivided attention to the business, family or otherwise, would you still think she was not entitled to a share if the marriage/partnership came to an end? Even if the children were still of an age where they needed a home and providing for, ie pre-graduation?

I am 64, there are some men I dislike as well, the nasty foul mouthed ones
Old Batty the shorts were elasticated, loosing weight took 4 weeks
Jalima, well done
Monica, I'm not bitter at all, I just choose who I like. Even my 4 times divorced neighbour is on my Christmas card list.

I just cannot believe how naive you all are all my illustrations are have actually happened here is a little more detail .

My Brother in Law now 70 is a farmer his 3 sons, (my nephews) run the farm and the value of the farm is immense. He could have included the sons in the land purchases but he was advised that would give their wives a share also and if divorce happened they would have to be paid out.
When the first wife divorced she was furious that a share of the land was not held by her husband and she got a much smaller payout, especially when she had paid a very expensive lawyer.
She was a gold digger.

One of my daughters ( the prettiest one ) also eventually married a farmer he refused to marry her for exactly the same reason, they even lived in a rented house so that she could not claim on that either. After 7 yrs she started a family, from her point of view " at least he can afford maintenence if he chucks me out", he didn't. He is a good husband and father, tight with money but she still gets everything she wants - and then some.

Finally, the story that a very long standing friend had to cope with. This time it was a large garage business on the edge of town with land attached, valuable.
Father was a ladies man, eventually his wife divorced him keeping her half share of the business in trust for the family.
Father quickly married the other woman, coincidently (maybe) his health deteriorated and she got power of attorney without telling his family, she actually put the business up for sale, the first the family knew was prospective buyers viewing. That cost over £100,000 in lawyers fees to fight and she left with nothing.

My lovely next door neighbour invited me to drinks when she first arrived, she seemed nice enough so I stayed and chatted for some time. After quite a lot of prosecco conversation turned to husbands and girl to girl she was quite proud of benefiting by over half a million pounds - so far. Our friendship did not blossom. An early post suggested that a woman would not have children just to get money, oh yes they do.

There are plenty of golddiggers and any sane business owner male or female makes sure that they protect their hard earned cash.

I understand there is a popular genre of film where plumbers are unexpectedly propositioned by numerous energetic young women. Perhaps these films have given people some wrong ideas.

I have never ever pretended I was the perfect wife, nor DH the perfect husband because neither of us have been or are. But for two weeks unhappiness you have been bitter for a very long time.

congratulations to all of you that are perfect wives with perfect husbands.

Thank you

Did you lose the weight and wear the shorts after 2 weeks.....impressive

Do you dislike a lot of people, Diana, or just a lot of women?

Monica's post is exactly why I dislike a lot of women.
I didn't marry a trophy husband, I fell in love with and married a 21 yr old apprentice plumber, a smart one who turned out to be a good leader, in business and sport.

Like a most men he wasn't perfect, in the 40 years that we were married I was unhappy for 2 weeks. I think that's pretty good, congratulations to all of you that are perfect wives with perfect husbands.

Women in their 30s are the worst?
I think DD earns more than her partner!

What a desperately bitter post from Diana, and what a contemptuous attitude to marriage and her H. She tells us that her H was captain of the rugby team and handsome, but not why she married him. Just for those two factors? Was she looking for a trophy husband who was looking for a trophy wife? That is a very poor foundation for marriage.

DH could never be described as a trophy husband, then or now and I certainly would not demean myself by trying to manage him. He is his own person and any attempt to do so would be doomed to failure. Come to that, I do not think I was ever a trophy wife. Nor have I ever seen other women, especially single women, as being predatory vamps trying to take my husband from me.

Mind you, I have met one or two women who were convinced that every woman they met was after their DH, whether they were married or not. It was quite amusing to see one of these women at work at a business do. She was convinced I was after her husband. I worked with her DH and we got on really well. But that was it. Apart from anything, I was 10 years older than her DH and both of us were happily married and neither of us showed any interest in straying.

Wow!

I'm reminded of a line from one of L. M. Montgomery's immortal novels.

"I like cats as IS cats, not cats as is women".

Referring to women as "golddiggers" is positively Edwardian, isn't it, if not antediluvian? Women in their 30s are the worst? I can only imagine what that poster thinks of the Duchess of Sussex.

Men have their faults. Women have their faults. But to say men should 'avoid' marriage in case they are trapped is ridiculous. Maybe one should try teaching a boy what to look for in a wife, so they don't make mistakes, while AT THE SAME TIME teaching them how to be a good husband and dad. Any male can father a child, but it takes a real man to actually be a dad. A workaholic who spends 12 hours a day at their jobs is not a "dad".

Yes of course it should be the parents Starlady but no harm in the extended family if they are close adding to the message.

Trisher, I so agree with you about teaching boys (girls, too) about contraception and that both parents share responsibility for the kids, regardless of their relationship. But isn't that up to the parents to teach them?

Specki4Eyes, you could be describing my son’s experience. It is normally assumed that the man is to blame for adultery etc, but definitely not always so. There are definitely some scheming women out there, setting a bad example to their children.

muffin

The song has a much ruder version as sung by rugby players, at least in my father's day. I will leave that to your imagination.

oldbatty