I’ll start off by saying my in-laws are great people who are kind, interesting and who love our children (and us) very much. We have two kids (daughter is 2 and son is 3 months). They live two hours away and my family lives 7 hours away.
Here’s where things get tough. My husband works all the time in athletics at a University where there is sporting events often Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Sometimes it’s less days, sometimes more. Since our children have been born, they decided they want to come every weekend in the fall (and stay with us) and most of the weekends throughout the year except for summer. Since this change, it’s put a major strain on my relationship with them and it’s the only thing my husband and I fight about. They come even when my husband is gone for away games so I don’t get any breaks.
Are they helpful with watching my older child, yes. They are always respectful, etc BUT just having people in our house every weekend has been giving me anxiety. Making sure the house is clean, having enough food in the house, picking up after them and not being able to live my own life on every weekend is stressful. I love my in-laws but now every thing they do is starting to grate on my nerves. My parents live far away so they don’t get to come very often or when my friends come to visit doesnt stop them from coming. They still come and my family/friends stay in the other room. This irritates me the most. I don’t get to see my people that often and then they have to share their visits with my in laws.
My husband doesn’t mind that much because he works so much that he’s spends a couple of hours total a weekend with them.
How do I navigate this situation? I have become resentful mostly towards my mother in law because she doesn’t recognize how stressful being a new mom can be PLUS having people in the house all the time can be. I’m not ever going to tell family they can’t see their grandchildren BUT you would think they would naturally know this is overstaying their welcome.
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