35 year marriage, three grown children, never been easy. Downsized two years ago, a year of marriage counselling, perhaps has helped in some ways. We've been having individual counselling too.
Last night he came home having had an emotional session about his mother, awful judgmental woman who he never loved and he tells me that he said to the counsellor that he's been cold, callous and careless in every relationship in his life.
He was married before and an affair ended it. He's had one affair with a work colleague during our marriage. I was upset at what he told me, tbh I've always felt second best and that he kept a bit of himself shut away and didn't really love me, wasn't capable of it. But walking away is so hard, I have no family and just a few friends. He says I know what he's like, I've told him numerous times so why am I upset now. I'm devastated. Can anyone tell me why I shouldn't see this as the end, even though I don't know how to find the courage to find somewhere to go. He has said sorry, but then he always does. Sometimes it's OK, we do get on quite well and share interests but is that enough,?
To go through chemo therapy or choose not to?
Alphabetical girls and boys names January 2024