Xmas and sister

You can choose your friends but not your family.
I have a brother who is 91 years old.(5 hour drive away). I wanted to visit him and asked him to suggest a weekend. I said I would stay in a hotel. He was not at all keen on the idea. Obviously not keen to see me ...no fall out, nothing. But I suppose the sibling love is not there. Sad, but that's how it goes. My 3 AC live in the same town, but it's very rare that they meet up. Fact of life in some families.

I would just concentrate on building your own life. It does seem as if your sister has not the empathy to be able to act in a caring way. I would imagine that this has always been a trait of hers, but your current situation has brought it to the fore. Some things have to be accepted, sad as it may be.

Or you could just not contact her at all and see how long it takes her to get in touch. Be prepared for the worst and rebuild your own life.

You say you have mobility problems. Do you still manage to get out and about and meet up with friends etc.?

You could write to her and say it would be lovely to resume a sisterly relationship and you would really appreciate that. If she ignores your letter , you have done your bit to try and repair things and you will have to let it go. If you feel you may have hurt her in some way you could apologise. But it's no good spending months or years brooding over something if she has no desire to meet you halfway. I wish you well.

I agree with momb it's your sister's loss Jette but I know it must make you sad.

That is very harsh Jette. She sounds very thoughtless and lacking in Christmas goodwill. Try to put it behind you and try not to brood on it.