What relationship advice would you give your daughter?

None, actually. DD decided very young that neither marriage nor motherhood were for her and anyway, it would be a very brave person who gave DD advice about anything.

Never go to bed on an argument. Loved your comment Minimoon - how true!

I like Khalil Gibran's poem On Marriage. Good advice.

Don't give up your own friends. Keep a separate life. Look after yourself first.

Don't let little niggles turn into big resentments - communicate and compromise before problems snowball.

another of my parents gems was dont marry someone because you think you could live with him ,marry someone who you know you cant live without .

Say something positive to/about your spouse whenever you can. Keep criticism to yourself.

On my wedding day my mother have me one piece of advice which has stood me in good stead.
"Remember this, your husband is always right, even when he's wrong".

All marriages need worked at ,sounds sad in the first romantic flush but its the truth.If you dont think you can work at it to keep it alive then you're probably marrying the wrong man .Thats what my dad told me.Then on the way to the church he asked if you have even the smallest doubt tell me and we'll turn this car around and never speak about it again.He died 25 years ago this week and I miss him every day ,but he was right...I have awonderful marriage but there have been times when it has been hard work and worth it

Know that you are a strong woman who can manage alone if needs be. A good relationship is one to cherish and make work, but if all your instincts and feelings tell you it's not working, listen to them and decide if things can be improved. If you become unhappy and it cannot be mended, please do not cling to the wreckage. Being alone is far better than being in a bad relationship.

(I wish someone had told me this years ago.)

Don't tell other people all your business. Think someone else may have said that. I think that's quite good advice even if you're not married or in a relationship.

Try not to let the sun go down on an argument.

......or before breakfast!

Muffin your experiences of what you think ‘went wrong’ would actually be pretty insightful.

My other tip would be not to bring up anything important after 9pm.

Talk a lot, laugh a lot, love a lot!

N & G have it just about right for me. Also retain a sense of humour, the ability to laugh together keeps us sane sometimes.

An old one but I've found it a good one.
Don't let the sun go down on an argument.

ClareAB....Yup, and that's how I 'caught' this one......unbeknownst to me he had a sweet tooth and I was going through a bit of a baking phase! Hey ho......my apple crumble hooked him and the fruit cake sealed the deal!

If all else fails, feed him.

I have made a lifelong litany of errors. Please accept this cheque and get some professional advice about relationships from someone who knows what they are doing

The best marriage advice we were ever given came from friends who had been married for a number of years. They said, "Marriage isn't 50/50, it's 100/100, and marriage is a verb, not a noun." I've been married for almost 8 years, and while I recognize that isn't a very long time, I have definitely learned the truth of these statements. If you don't make working on your marriage a priority, it could well fail.

Put the other first and don't sweat the small stuff.

My mum (wise bird) advised me to be wary of telling friends too much if husband annoyed me as, once we’d made up and were fine again, I’d forget his bad points and my friends never would.

Be willing and able to Sa sorry when you are in the wrong. Tolerance of differences. Talking about any problems at an early stage. Don't let things fester. Don't take the little caring things for granted.

Tanith cannot improve on yours.

The Recipe for Happy Marriage

Combine two caring hearts.
Melt into one.
Add a lot of love.
Mix well with respect, and trust.
Add gentleness, laughter, faith, hope, and joy.
Pour in lots of understanding (Don't forget patience)
Sprinkle with kisses, and a dash of hugs.
Bake for a life time.