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About to end friendship

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Luckygirl Fri 08-Mar-19 13:12:08

I do not think you should "end things" - this is not a romance or a marriage. Just gradually see a bit less of her and do not make a big deal of it. I can't see the point of having a confrontation - that just seems daft to me.

I often hold different opinions from my friends - we just chat about it.

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Telly Fri 08-Mar-19 12:14:03

I would just drop her. Easy enough to do, no confrontation necessary. Cancel the course and move on. I really dont see any reason to pursue the matter, no good will come of it.

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B9exchange Fri 08-Mar-19 11:57:36

Difficult to comment without knowing exactly what A said, but you are brave to want to do this face to face, I admire you for that. I would want to ask her what made her come up with these comments, was there something else going on in her life that is clouding her view? Tell her that you have been friends for a long while, but that you enjoy your friendship with B and if A is going to continue to make nasty comments about her, you will not listen, and you will not want to have contact with her any more. Only fair to give her a chance to explain what is going on, but stick to your guns. Good luck!

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Brigidsdaughter Fri 08-Mar-19 11:51:28

I'm poor in confrontation (outside my family of DH, DS and myself) and not so good on my feet either in tricky chats.
I cant put revealing details here but in chat in shared car journey my so called friend (A) really laid into someone I like (B)and am friends with. (Starting off with 'I know you like her BUT...)
I defended, of course, but what really made it worse was A came with me to B's house for a lovely meal plus hobby activity where I needed a partner, ie accepted B's hospitality but free to be nasty to me later. Apparently, she went to do me a favour!!
I did ask A but with a few weeks notice and because we were due to be together that day anyway. My own fault to a point.
I'm upset at someone bitching to me about my other friend. It was heated, stemming from jealousy, but nasty imo.
Am about to end things and while I'd love to send an email/text I'll be grown up and do it face to face. Never felt like this before about anyone. Usualky a night's sleep sorts it out. Horribly sour taste in mouth.
We are doing a course together but may pull out or distance myself..
Am I mad?

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