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Mega grumpy husband

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gillybob Sat 04-May-19 11:33:02

If I am honest I think your reply was s bit cruel Anja . It must be horrible for kiki2 not to feel loved or respected by her husband . It is such a shame that now that you are both retired you can’t find some common interest to share or even just enjoy doing nothing much together .

My DH and I are like chalk and cheese in many ways and We don’t have a lot of money to spare but enjoy a bottle of wine and cooking a nice meal while listening to music .

You say he is obsessional about his hobby which is a bit over the top but I wonder do you have a hobby that you could enjoy more too ?

I do hope things get easier for you . I can’t imagine bell ringing will do much to help his painful wrists mind you !

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Anja Sat 04-May-19 11:20:22

PS many are married to worse that just grumpy old men.

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Anja Sat 04-May-19 11:19:07

To be honest you don’t sound like a bundle of laughs yourself. It must be hard on him with bad arthritis in his wrists when his hobby is bell ringing. As far as seeking treatment, there is none. Just painkillers which don’t agree with everyone.

Do you both a favour and either stop nagging him and try to understands how he feels or get out of the marriage and find someone younger and more to your liking.

I know this sounds unsympathetic but what happened to ‘till death do us part’ and ‘in sickness and in health’?

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kiki2 Sat 04-May-19 10:56:01

My husband of many years is very grumpy and miserable most of the time ; I am now retired and he is always around but doesn’t seem happy to have me for company.
I find it very hard and at times, want to leave as it is so bad.
I don’t feel loved or respected, he puts me down a lot , does not respect my feelings and emotions and doesn’t seem to have any emotions himself.
When I talk to him about it , he denies it , makes some effort but a few days later , we are back to square one.
I am scared of the logistics of leaving plus I don’t think I can afford to , I also worry about what my grown up children would think and whether they would give me the cold shoulder.
There is also an age gap between my husband and me and I don’t think that helps ; he is ageing badly in my opinion , he has bad arthritis in his wrists but won’t seek medical help , just moans about his condition,
He is obsessional about his main hobby , bellringing , but doesn’t seem to care about me.
I am not from this country originally and I miss my family and country but he doesn’t seem to understand that either .
I do feel at the end of my tether and don’t know what to do ; as I said earlier I have tried many times to talk to him but he denies his behaviour.
Any advice would be appreciated , thank you .

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