Looking for love

One usually involves the other sooner or later

Don't look for love. Look for things that give you contact with other people like U3A. evening classes, charity work. Make your life happy and interesting. Then you will develop friendships and who knows? ....

Has he been back?

Perhaps he's found someone.

Is he looking for love or sex?

Going to church may not appeal, but always lots more ladies than men and not all elderly. Also various social groups connected with church life.

Learn to dance. Brings you in contact with ladies

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Might be worth looking at 'Yours' magazine which carries two or three pages each fortnight for older people looking for friendship/ companionship etc. You can specify an area if travel is a problem. I've no idea how successful the ads. are though.

Dr John...I don't know if you are actually a doctor or just your handle?

You know what attracts people to other people more than anything? It is someone who is happy in themselves. Someone who enjoys and loves their own company first and foremost. If you are showing signs of 'desperation' i.e. needing to meet someone because you are lonely then people automatically shy away.

Try to join as many activity groups you find interest in. Forget joining in the hope of meeting someone. Just join because it interests YOU. Once you find something that interests you, you will become an interesting person to others. Initially, you may only find someone to forge friendship with...but you never know where that will lead to.....

In other words ....'forget' about finding a relationship. That will find you!

Have you looked at Meetup.com for local groups in your area. You may be able to find a group to suit one of your interests .. walking, photography, etc. They may even have singles groups! I joined a local over 45's singles walking group! Good luck.

Blondenana, your post reminds me of a neighbour, in her 70's, who holidays regularly and one year went on a river cruise with her friends and came back very disgruntled with a face like a wet week. " I won't be going on any of those again, they're full of old people ". I'd laughed but she wasn't amused !
I think she's more a " Benidorm " person. So I suppose that the moral is that not all oldies are the same and don't particularly want a quiet life.

Consider the things you enjoy doing, may be fishing, or archaeology, whatever launches your boat, and then join groups that do that.

Even of the interest is predominantly male, being sociable and socialising with other people will expand your social circle, but do not go 'looking for love' that will frighten away any woman on sight.

If are just 'looking for love', go online., although how much luck you will have there if your focus is so narrow I do not know.

I think when you are older it is very difficult to find a new partner, unless you like pubs, and i don;t particularly, and really most of them these days are younger people who go, from what i hear
I don;t know of anywhere in my area, that caters for older people,
When i was younger there seemed to be groups espcially for say as an example 18-40,or 18-30, kind of thing, but after about age 45, nothing much
Where i live the population has more older people than younger ones, as it is a seaside resort people come here to retire, and then it seems mostly couples
I have been on my own for a long time, and rarely venture out socially as there is just nowhere to go,and although living here for about 50 years i really don;t know many people well,,
I only commented today on the number of elderly i saw in town,it is turning into an old peoples haven, very depressing ,

Love will find you Drjohn. Be patient. Did you post on here hoping for a romantic reply ?

The problem is if you ookfor love you don’t find it love has to look for you

Join the local U3A often more men than women.

You could go to evening classes, or dance lessons (there is always a shortage of men at ballroom or Salsa lessons), or perhaps swimming/gym?

Well Septimia, looking after a wife SHOULD be a full time job if done properly

My DS said that the only way he would find someone was online. Then he met his - now- wife at a jobs fair!

A nice local pub is sometimes an unusual meeting place but mainly for the male of the species although there could be two or three women together where a particular one could take your eye.
As a for instance, myself and two daughters visited a nice place on Monday night where we were meeting other family members. One daughter ( a step-daughter ) was in conversation with two men who were sitting outside the pub, and were generally enjoying their chat. She will be 70 later this year, but the knack to involve herself was still there and her interest was evident.

However, when she returned to our company she said he had a wedding ring on so that was that.

The moral is---don't give up, there's a lid for every pot ! Providing you're not a mug.

maybe a local interest group. libraries have details of local groups.